I flipping hate moms who couldn't nurse and get super giddy to get other moms to quit.
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Breastfeeding can be SO HARD to establish!! It's awkward if you've never done it before, baby has to learn to latch, they constantly feed, and people think they need formula because they're hungry every hour or so for the first few months. Those tummies are tiny! We're supposed to be on demand taps and it's a learning curve for all involved and we need care and guidance 💜
I’m the mum who tried everything and failed at 2 weeks. I’m the mum who’ll say yes there’s support, and signpost to places that will help (all places I tried). But I’m also the mum who’ll say it’s okay to stop. Not ‘quit’ but stop. For your health. For your babies health. For bonding. So while I don’t think it should be the automatic response, I think hating on her for this is a little harsh.
I don't think it's ever someone's place to tell someone they should stop unless the mom has brought up herself she's questioning it. It's so hard and if someone is wanting to nurse, cutting down their confidence and casting doubt on them is cruel and unhelpful. True friends and family would only offer support and help them figure it out unless they specifically say they're not sure if this is the right path and THEN you can say whatever path you choose is 100% okay.
Understandable, at the beginning of my breastfeeding journey my mom kept insisting I add formula or rice cereal to bottles to get him “full”, i had to eventually just curse her out
I'd be upset if someone suggested, on day 5 of me trying to breastfeed, that I should just give formula. I'd be upset enough that I wouldn't go near you at a time where I'm still vulnerable. 🤷🏾♀️ If a mom is just venting about how hard it is and how frustrating it is...you can ask if she wants* to breastfeed and if she says yes then ask if she would like help or tips. If she seems unsure then remind her that it is hard and that if it's affecting her mental state and emotional state it is okay to try supplementing with formula or to switch to formula all together. That's okay. A healthy mom is a better mom.
I just ignore these kinds of people 🫠
I had a friend like this. I just ignored her and kept on nursing. She also really urged me to quit nursing when my lo was a year old because she “didn’t need it anymore”. She also urged me to start spanking my child as well at the same age. People have very different ideas of parenting. Gotta do what’s right for us. We haven’t done these things and never looked back
It’s just not my style of parenting (referring to my friend). I struggled having my daughter (ivf), I had bad postpartum anxiety and no support other than my spouse. People can talk all they want, but if I want to have a more gentle approach with my child it isn’t me spoiling her or what have you. Maybe instead of forcing our children to get over their fears and shoving them into harsh realities sooner, they could have used more empathy because that’s what their emotional health needed was to know that mom had their back and was their comfort while going through development.
For discipline, we do a lot of redirection and talking it out with my lo and using our words and modeling what to do. It works well for her.
I really wish I had mothers around me who breastfed I barely made it to a month and I feel so guilty. I did pump for a while but it wasn’t good enough. It makes me sad seeing moms feed their babies the healthier option
It took me 12+ long hard weeks to establish breastfeeding but once we figured it out, it was so easy and natural. He’s 2 now and we’re still going.
@Sarah that’s amazing good job mama
It took me about 2 months to get the hand of it! I didn't breastfeed on my first just because I didn't feel the need to but I knew I didn't want anymore kids after number 2 so wanted to give it a go 🥰 it was so painful to start and I had to have a lot of help but I'm just stubborn and really wanted to do it I think I lasted about 6 months only because she started teething and I really didn't want to give her the opportunity to bite 🤣 but I was told by numerous people early on to quit and stuff and it was just so annoying when all I wanted was support
If she found it beneficial for her I can understand why she would suggest it, people tend to suggest advice based on what has worked for them but obviously this isn't always what people are looking for or hoping for. It could also be that she doesn't want to feel alone in the decision she made but if you feel so strongly about her/the situation, I probably wouldn't be friends with her.