SAHMs only: if husband provides for family 100%, and he helps out at home/with your LOs, do you need to help him with work?
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I agree with @Cassidy !
If you are able to help him with work then I don’t see why not. I have no way to help my husband with work stuff…however I can help by making sure he has food packed and ready and his clothes are clean. Especially because when he gets home his priority is helping with the kids. I believe that there is no “right” way or “equal” way to do things. Both of you should help each other out and do whatever works for your family. There are some days when he does his lunch himself and throws his own load in the wash. Everyday we help each other…even if the task is usually the others responsibility
I do what I can but there isn’t a lot I can help him with other than wash his uniforms and let him vent and offer support. He’s a K9 officer so I can’t do much more than that lol.
No. You dont NEED to lol. Help if you want.
We both support each other and are grateful for what each of us does for the family. I will pack his lunch, cook for him, and do laundry. I do this because it puts a smile on my face to see him happy. He helps me around the house with building and the heavy stuff so I take care of him in a different way :)
First I don’t NEED (you need to want to) to do anything, especially since he’s not my husband yet….BUT I just wash his clothes and set extra alarms in the morning to help him get up. Apart from that, not much else to do.
@Sophia that’s exactly my question. Is it a “need” to help him just like it’s a “need” for him to pay the bills. I think the general consensus is it’s an option to help or not.
For sure. I think that is what makes a relationship worth it: what you’re willing to do, even when you don’t have to
Nooo because he should be there as a present father rather than merely a paycheck. It's his job too and is his job mine??? Nooo like why would I help him code or manage his employees?? Being a sahm is so much more than helping with the kids and with ur home. His "help" is prob just a fraction of what sahms do overall and in no way would I feel obligated to help him with the paycheck when he does a small percentage by "helping" with the kids
I would if he needed it, but he doesn't work from home so there's not really a need or opportunity for me to help him with his work
Nope. He’s a big boy.
My husband works in cybersecurity so I literally cannot help him. 😂 But we both lived alone, and each had careers, before getting married and having a kid so we know how to feed and dress ourselves and handle workloads... I'd feel weird picking out his clothes. I do enough meal prep for the kiddo and family that I'd make his lunch if he ever wanted me to, but he basically lives off granola bars. In short.... I think my answer is no. Lol.
@Tiffany your man is a dog?!
My husband leaves for work at 4:30 in the morning so hell no
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I’m a SAHM and while my full time work is the kids, I don’t consider it “helping” when my husband is parenting them as well. He’s just being a dad. 🤷🏻♀️ That said, we support each other. It isn’t 50/50. Some days I can only put in 25% so he picks up what I can’t do (like dishes or laundry), other days, he has to work late hours so I make sure he has food available and a tidy house to come home to. As far as supporting him in his job, all I can really do is let him vent. 😅 He’s a grown man who can handle the responsibility of working a job!
100% agree with @Catherine. Being a stay a home mom you don’t get breaks and you work 24/7, 365 days a year. I always am on call if a kid wakes in the night. So I make sure his clothes are clean and he gets a good rest, but he doesn’t help around the house or with the kids. It’s his house and his kids too. It’s ridiculous to think just because he has a 9-5 he doesn’t have to contribute around the house and with OUR kids. We both have our responsibilities around the house and we are a team when it comes to the kids.
I don’t need to help him…I want to just like how he wants to help around the house and cook sometimes and wants to play with the kids
I do because he’s honestly the other half to this working dynamic, but I think the key is having a good enough relationship to the point that I WANT to do those things..