Toddler crying after I put her down for bed😭help

Do you already have a white noise machine and is it close to her? The white noise helps them sleep through the night. I wouldn’t let her cry for too long either. There’s a time limit. I think it’s 5 or 10 minutes then after that you can give in. I know it’s hard mama. When my daughter did this u had a cup of warm milk ready added a TiNY bit of sugar or chocolate ( bc she wouldn’t drink warm milk normally and it encourages them to drink it all) and she’d be right out.

I don’t have any advice, but you are in good company. My daughter has been doing this for a month 🫣 we stopped going in her room because it seemed to make it worse. We also didn’t co sleep, she’s been in her room and in her crib since she was 6 months old. Before that she was in her crib in our room. I’ve heard there is a 2 year regression?

@Rian yes she has a sound machine and she loves her sleeping situation I know bc she hasn’t had issues in the past. It’s just rough. It’s giving me anxiety.

@Jacqueline that’s kind of where I’m at even though I feel like a horrible person. My husband is telling me not go in her room bc it does seem to make it 10x worse after doing so.

Does she sleep with a night light? Some kids become aware of the dark at this age. Maybe overly tired? Try moving her bedtime up 15 mins. Is she potty training or about to? Maybe offer a potty trip before bed. She may using her diaper after she is put down and uncomfortable. Practice bedtime during the day as a game so it’s familiar at nighttime.

she sounds overtired, what’s your schedule like on a normal day & how do you navigate bedtime on the days that you skip?

@Amani she’s literally always been such a sleepy girl. It was actually kind of crazy she would sleep in until 930am sometimes and nap like 1-2 hours during the day in her crib no problem and go to bed at 8ish. Nothing has really changed in her routine for her to start acting this way other than her getting older. And yes I definitely think she’s over tired bc she does not nap unless I go for a drive and gets up at like 615am-ish. All of this is out of nowhere and not “normal” for her.

@Katie yes she has a hatch nightlight sound machine that she has used since birth. She is not potty trained yet. She knows her bedtime routine she doesn’t fight brushing her teeth or getting in her pajamas and sleep sack. She starts getting upset a few minutes after I leave the room.

@Cait I don’t feel great about it either, I’m almost 37 weeks pregnant with crazy hormones and hearing her cry is rough. We realized after going in there every time, she 1) learned that crying brought us into the room 2) every time we went in, it was worse every time we left the room. So we stopped going in and it’s gotten better. Some nights she still cry’s, other nights she doesn’t. But on the nights she does cry, it’s shorter lived. I hope it gets better for you soon ♥️ One thing that did seem to help my daughter though, was that I started going in and would pick her up and tell her everything was ok, that mom and dad were here and that everyone needed to go to bed. I’d repeat to her everything was ok. Then I’d set her in her crib and repeat the same thing and when I got up, I told her mama was going to bed and that she needed to go to bed in a very calm voice. That seemed to help calm her down.

@Cait sleep needs can literally change overnight at this age! I can send you some suggestions if you wanna DM me!

We went through this too, just before 2nd bday and lasted like 6 weeks. It was awful. No suggestions, just solidarity ☹️

My daughter went through a major sleep regression for about 10 days about a month before turning 2. She was and is again a great sleeper but it was brutal for that time we went through it. What helped best was going in and telling her “mom needs to (empty dishwasher, take a shower, feed the baby, do the dishes, etc) as she will be back in 10/5/15 minutes if you still need her. Then I would leave the room and if still upset after the allotted time I would go in and do it again. Usually took 2-3 times of this for her to relax but the key is to pick activities she understands about how long they take and still go back in so they trust you will return if they still need you. Once we started doing this, it only took about 3 days to not fight going to bed.