Anyone else?

Me and my partner barely have sex since finding out I was pregnant. He says he struggles with the idea that our child is there and he finds it weird. We got past it a bit when I was earlier on but now I’m showing and have a bump he struggles even more. He’s loving and affectionate with me but anything sexual he shuts down. I’ve been struggling with the way my body is changing and overthinking his reluctance to be intimate with me. We’ve communicated about it and he’s explained that he’s still attracted to me and it’s nothing I’ve done or am doing but he is just struggling with the idea of having sex, especially when we will be able to feel the baby move any day now too. I’m just wondering if this is just us or if anyone else is going through similar things. This is our first pregnancy so it’s all new to us.

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Definitely not just you! I think we had sex maybe 2 times during my pregnancy! But funnily enough, it was me who felt weird about it not him lol

I felt weird about it at first but then I read about it online and they said it’s normal and safe and that your baby isn’t really going to feel it (and even if they did they don’t know what it is and can’t distinguish between that and you going for a walk or something!) I guess I did some mindset shift like thinking well I am pregnant because we made love, this is where the baby comes from, so it isn’t wrong to keep making love. I also think there will be the period after birth where we can’t do it and then there might be less sex whilst we are looking after the baby so…gotta get your kicks whilst you can! But in all seriousness can you guys read some stuff online together to help him understand that it’s perfectly ok for the baby? Or get him in the mood with a BJ then do reverse cowgirl so he can’t see the bump?

We’ve spoken with the midwife to make sure it safe and understand it better and so he understands that it’s normal and healthy and won’t affect the baby. He’s reluctant to do anything, foreplay, oral and any positions even when you can’t see the bump. I think it is just the mindset thing and maybe getting in his own head about it too. We can both be over-thinkers at times

Completely normal. My husband felt the same way. He even got more worried when my doctor did a cervical check and said that she could feel the baby’s head lol

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