I’m sick of seeing other people saying their baby sleeps through the night
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My 10 week baby has just dropped to two feeds in the night and is doing 5 hour stints. I did absolutely nothing different to what I have been doing usually - I think it just comes when they are ready. I know this doesn’t help you but just know it’s nothing that you’re doing/not doing. Sending lots of love!
My 10 week old baby is EBF and he still wakes every couple of hours during the night, I try to have a sleep during the day to make myself feel more functional. The longest he's gone is 8 hours but it's happened once. Make sure your baby is having enough sleep during the day and keeping entertained in wake windows, set a bedtime routine and stick to it every single night so your baby starts to realise between day/night. We still have the occasional bad night but they're babies it's to be expected. Don't be ashamed to ask for help either, hope you start to get a bit of rest soon x
My first baby was a terrible sleeper, she woke every 2 hours for a feed in the night, probably because she was a small baby and needed it. She don’t sleep 5 hours until around 6 months and didn’t sleep through the night until 14 months, so I absolutely get the sleep deprivation. I do think it is down to the individual baby. My second is now 9 weeks and has started to give me the odd 8 hour stints, but normally does 5-6 hours. Haven’t done anything different. However, my first would happily nap during the day put down whereas this baby always has to nap in the carrier. All babies will get there eventually.
Our boy is 3 months and he wakes 3-4 times a night. I think I had prepared myself for the fact that 8hr sleep nights were over after having a baby
Im sorry but your babies isn't supposed to sleep through the night. Babies under 1 are supposed to wake up to eat. It's normal for them not to sleep through. Id be more concerned if they did sleep through
@Samantha don’t necessarily agree with this. Babies are all different and when speaking with health professionals about my LO sleeping through the night there have been no concerns at all. She is gaining weight perfectly and is hitting all her milestones. However one of my friends babies hasn’t slept through once and they’re almost 2 now. Again still gaining weight perfectly and hitting milestones. Babies are all different xx
If it makes you feel any better, my 11 week old either sleeps through or wakes up for one feed, but my toddler who is 2 and half still wakes up at least 3 times a night!! 😂
My 11 week old is formula fed and cries till 4am every night. I hear you sis
There is no ‘normal’ when it comes to babies, just like us they’re all so different, with different strengths and weaknesses. My girl sleeps great but is horrendous to feed because of reflux and allergies. Being a mum is the biggest test of our strength, but even when we think we’re too exhausted to carry on, we do it for them. This stage isn’t forever and things constantly change with them. Us whose babies sleep through the night now might get hit with huge regressions whilst your bubs is sleeping soundly. It isnt forever and one day they won’t need us anymore so as hard as it is, don’t lose faith. You’re doing an amazing job, keep going, you’ve got this x
@Chloe I second this. We’re so wired to believe that babies are meant to wake up every 3 hours that when they don’t and when they do sleep through, we panic. I took my little one to the drs because she slept through 2 nights in a row and I was laughed at and told it’s normal because she put her birth weight back on and more, I don’t need to keep waking her up and just annoying her and disturbing her sleep. I was mortified with myself x
Please don’t let comparisons of other babies ruin your time with your baby or make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. The time goes so quickly (my first born is nearly 4 and I would love middle of the night feed sleepy cuddles with him again!!) so take in every little moment with your baby and don’t worry what anyone else is doing. My first didn’t sleep through until 10 months and my baby girl also wakes between 1-3 times but that’s totally normal
I’d suggest talking to a therapist if you’re “losing the will to live”. A lot of people’s babies sleeping through the night because they’re on formula (not all of them but that’s the consensus I found based on the posts seen on here). Talk to a sleep coach or hire a night nurse for one day just to get that one night of sleep. Pump and give the bottles to your partner to feed at night so you get better sleep. But I don’t think anyone is sleeping 8+ hours yet (maybe some people who have had babies super early in Sept or August and in their third month). It will come to you one day for sure. It’s a grind, don’t lose hope but do talk to someone if you’re feeling depressed (like you’re mentioning in the post). It’s better to be proactive than reactive with any mental health issue