What would you do?

Sorry for the log post. My baby was convinced via IVF with help from a sperm donor as my husband is sterile and can't have children. We bought the sperm from European Sperm Bank and we don't know the donor. Fast forward my baby is now 5 months (24 weeks) and a blessing to our lives. My mother highlighted to me that baby has a small vertical line on her nose (looks like a small dimple). I made the mistake to google it and found that this is a rare phenotype of Digeorge syndrome (22q deletion). Following an extensive research I found some similarities of infants with this syndrome such as epicanthal folds, hooded eyes, small chin, thin upper lip and short phlintum. I know many babies may have similar characteristics however I cannot take this out of my mind. I feel I am going crazy and I am crying everyday, this is ruining this precious time with my beautiful baby. I try to look on the positive aspects, she is meeting all her milestones so far, she is a happy, smily and active baby. She is my rainbow baby and it brakes my heart to even think that she may have this syndrome. I don't think I can have another baby and I'd like to know that she is going to have a normal life. I found out that 1 in 4000 babies are born with this syndrome and is most often met after Down syndrome. Most babies with this syndrome have heart problems and a cleft palate, but some don't. The symptoms vary so the mild symptoms may go unnoticed, some people don't really know they have it. However majority of adults with this syndrome develop severe anxiety, autism, depression and schizophrenia. I just need to know what would you do? Would you check with the GP and request a genetic specialist or leave it and enjoy the baby as long as she seems healthy and meeting milestones. TIA

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I would recommend speaking to your GP. As you said it is overwhelming you so I think it would be best for you to know. Statistically is in unlikely that your child has this syndrome so I think this will reassure you.

The real question is are you going to be able to enjoy her milestones and stay present with her or will this always seep in and affect your time with her? There is no harm to put your mind at ease and consult with a GP. 💕

Sorry I do not have any advice to give other than what the above ladies have suggested. But I was just wondering if the European Sperm Bank health screen their donors? X

@Nire I asked ESB, they don't screen for this syndrome.

I would go and get it checked out as it’ll at least set your mind at rest and you will know … that’s what’s upsetting you the not knowing and either way you’d deal with it xx

The first problem is googling. It always leads to the worst results. Definitely get it medically checked and don't rely on Google results.

What exactly does the vertical line look like?/ where is it? I have a line across my nose between the main nose bit and the bridge/long bit. It could literally just be a normal dimple and nothing serious. Also i wouldn’t google about things like this (i learnt the hard way) you’ll drive yourself crazy. Talk to your GP if you’re worried. But try not to stress too much and just focus on LO

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