Struggling so much! 😓

My little one is nearly 3 months but 7 weeks corrected. Honestly I'm just finding this so so hard. He is my second baby... And I feel like I'm in the groundhog day of newborn. My first son was so chill therefore newborn stage was fine! My second baby (preemie) is such hard work and now I'm thinking I'm not even nearly out this newborn stuff. He was brought home of oxygen which added to my stress but got off it the last X2 weeks. I thought things would pick up. The only thing he does is scream/throw himself around/whimper UNLESS he is feeding or sleeping. I know it's good he is Sleeping.... However I feel like there's no time when he is awake where he is settled... To do some tummy time... Cuddles... "Play" ... Even just to coo or sing to him. He has reflux but is on omeprazole... But feeding him takes at least an hour because of keeping him upright. He is fine while feeding... But then after just seems so unsettled and angry. He also has zero routine... I can feed him but then an hour later he is raging screaming for food again. It's like there is no settling him ever. He is still waking X3 hourly for feeds also overnight. Is this normal for preemies? Is it just his temperament or am I missing something? He is starting to focus on things ... I've had a very odd smile ... But the unsettled/screaming is outweighing any lovely/heart warming stuff and honestly I just don't know how to keep going.

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Hey , I totally feel your pain , my middle child was prem at 24wks, he's now almost 3 and I be honest he gets up several times in the night , nothing settles him unless I out on baby sensory..... the sleep thing i have asked docs etc is it a preemie thing as my eldest wasn't like this and my youngest isn't , baby 1 and 3 sleep great baby 2 - In a nice way very different- Yliits also very normal to compare as i do all the time! Is he on any special milk at all? Our son was initially put on sma in hospital, however he had really bad reflux so the neonatal doc said to stop that and try Aptimal pepti junior- Which is only on perscription and he settl3d down with that , initially we thought could be milk intolerance but as he got older with the help from dietician we moved to cows milk slowly and he's great! Our son has zero routine.... we can do the whole bath dinner bed and within 1hr he's awake again .... honestly i do find it hard and I feel your pain 😢

I personally would look into changing his milk if possible 🤔 it's just an idea x

I could have written this myself, I have an almost identical situation. My little boy is almost 4 months but 6 weeks corrected. I'm feel the same and used the same words myself with the groundhog day newborn

When I was in the nicu with my little girl I got told that premie babys tend to cry more so its totally normal that hes more fussy. We came home on oxygen too so i totally get the added stress! For me its also added to my anxiety as im scared she will get sick and need to go back to hospital but you do find a grove with going out with the tank and navigating it! Have you also been precribed gaviscon? We had both omeprazole and gaviscon for her reflux! But i know the pain of feeding taking so long! As a FTM ive just tried not to put pressure on my for having a routine etc…shes 6 months now (3 1/2 corrected) and weve only just started a routine but even then it changes a lot! Youve got this! Feel free to message me too if youd like🫶🏼

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