Back story I got pregnant last year by someone I have been on and off with for years. (Please no judgement) he has 3 children including now our daughter he’s never met her she’s 7months and just came out of prison

When you guys talked was about her and meeting her? Is he staying with his other children?

@Carissa his 2 other children from different moms he sees the first child as he is with her mom but the 2nd child. He said he doesn’t get to see the 2nd child as much because his partner doesn’t trust him etc and that she doesn’t want her child around the 2nd one etc so it makes things complicated. He reassured me that it will happen he just needs time.

When we met yes it was about meeting her and other things aswell around it.

Idk girl, I know it can be hard to trust any women who have been with him previously. Usually because there is some sort of drama when a parent moves on or has kids outside the relationship. But if the first baby momma seems to know him best. I would trust your gut and her.

I think you have every right to be scared. Your body is giving off those signals to protect you. I believe if he says things are chaotic right now, you should believe him. You don’t need chaos in your life right now. It’s a good sign that he wants to build and communicate, having met with you just last week. If he just got out of prison, it will probably take some years before anything resembling normalcy. Trust your gut. Check in with your value system. You do what’s best for you and your child. And pray for that man. If he’s going to be in your child’s life, you won’t have to force that. You cannot control him. Only your own actions. God bless you!

@Carissa tbh i get why she doesn’t trust him but im not trying to be in a relationship with him i was us to Co parent. He’s still with her I’ve known him longer than her I know him inside out no thing comes as a suprise to me. But I’m more just thinking does he mean what he says. I want to believe him but I’m scared and I think it’s because a child is involved and we didn’t start of great when I found out I was pregnant now having that conversation which was needed things have changed.

@Saida for sure thank you for that. I do appreciate that he’s communicated with me because he didn’t have to and we did a lot of talking and listening from both sides. I most defiantly do pray for him and all his children etc. I struggle with patience so when he says it will happen it’s like I’m thinking but when but I don’t want to rush or spoil something that could end up working out with him meeting her. Apart of me is relieved that we’ve spoke idk I’m just praying that I’m he’s genuine with what he’s said.

I wouldn’t hold out hope. He doesn’t see his 2nd child. If he wanted to, he would make it happen. And if he wanted to be there for your kid, 7 months is a long time. A meeting is just 1 hour. Put him in child support and move on. If he gets his act together, I’ll be so happy for your little girl, but he’s already shown himself to be unreliable.

@Hopeful he was in prison when she was born he’s only just come out now with her being 7 months