Consequences for bad behaviour

Hi Love, I tend to take anything digital off my son when he's been a little 💩🤣 & then goes on naughty step for 5minutes x

I take away ipad from my 7yo and make him play with toys. I find that screen time makes them behaviour worst.🥴

I use the naughty step method. It was 1 minute per year's old, but that might be too much for yours now. 5 minutes should be enough. Mine had to sit there quiet and calm, if they got up and didn't listen the time started again. X

I thought the naughty step wasn't recommended past the age of 6? I used to ise it, and it worked amazingly x They don't use tablets very often because of how their behaviour ends up. They just completely outright say no and refuse what I'm asking them to do and then my son days he hates me and then says he's done nothing wrong 🤷‍♀️ x

We've had some success framing it as rewards/natural consequences - so she gets stickers for doing well (listening for the whole morning, doing various chores, speaking politely to grownups) and gets a treat every X stickers. And then also if she's behaving badly well calmly remind her there won't be time to [do things she wants] if she keeps misbehaving.

Natural consequences with direct correlation... My child also doesn't use technology all that much either. Because when she dies she completely zones out and becomes ignorant. So screen time is very limited. For example she decided to draw on her freshly decorated bedroom wall. I made her wash it off and then paint over the mark with the (thankfully left over paint) and then as a result there are no art supplies in her room anymore they are down stairs so she is supervised with pens etc. My other daughter wrote her name in pencil in my wooden kitchen work tops at 6. She has to clean it off and buff the side. Told we only draw on paper, but also praised for getting her letters the correct way round as this was the first time 😂 Last weekend my 11yo was caught putting her dirty feet on the wall on the stairs, that was decorated 3 weeks ago. - it took her 45 to wash the walls down after...

They get rewarded for good behaviour, in the sense that they can pick what's for dinner, or a movie night or a magazine, or we plan a day out. They all have chores to do and get money for each task (anything from 5p to £2.50) if they complete all of the chores each day at the end of the week they get an extra 2.50 so they have some control. And generally other than arguing with each other things run pretty smoothly. X

If he talks back too much start not washing his laundry or cooking him food. He lives in your house under your rules and if he can't follow them and can't show respect, you start to not respect him buy not doing things 🤷‍♀️

@Santa for a 7 and 9 year old??

@Gemma yes, they understand a lot at that age they not small anymore. There has to be respect in the house. 🙂 they will quickly understand the consequences of their behaviour 🙂

I'm having exactly the same problems with my nearly 8 year old, plus I have a toddler turning 2 next week 😑 My eldest seems to be angry alot and has a very short fuse. Apparently he's fine outside of the home, but we have now taken away his ps4, family tablet and pocket money. We've had numerous talks about his attitude and the way he speaks to us, myself in particular. I do agree with what's already been said about screens and think they influence the bad behaviour, even tho he only plays fifa when on it. Any tips for handling them when you've already taken pretty much everything away? There's no chance of my 7 year old on a naughty step, he just gets sent to his room alot. Mine is saying he hates us at the moment too. Just starting to think he doesn't like authority or he's been spoilt. Thinks everything he says is right ☹️

@Santa I completely disagree with this for children so young. It is not age appropriate. This is how I would deal with my teenagers or adults!