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I am a first time mum I am a young mum in my twenties and my partner is in his late twenties I am from adl and I moved to sydney to marry him and he is originally from sydney but isn’t an australian citizen and is was on a student study visa 500. we recently gave birth this year early november and had our baby. we are from pakistan both born in pakistan me mum I’m a citizen he’s not a resident of Australia yet no PR. My partner does have some bad habits like smoking, vaping, and also some alcohol. I have had a rough childhood with family issues. I had ups and downs during pregnancy and after pregnancy with my mental health feeling anxious stressed before pregnancy I was doing well and managing stuff myself and went well. my landlord says to me I’m mental but can’t confirm why she calls me mental when I’m just trying my best with baby as I’m a new mum. my partner thinks I’m not mental but sometimes he says I am very moody since I’m a young mum. I just do things which make me happy. the department of child protection here in NSW Australia had concerns of my baby and they haven’t been open about the things we are doing wrong when we are doing stuff like normal parents and keep saying they have concerns about baby and our relationship. Our baby is healthy as far as the baby nurse visits and I’m her mother I’m doing fine as well coping with postpartum but healing pretty well. I am happy to get counselling if things go downhill but as of now being with baby and partner makes me comfortable. The department keeps saying they will take baby away from me and my partner cause hey have “concerns” but they’re not open about it I also feel the worker is racist towards us and my partner here in sydney. Like I said I am not from Sydney I didn’t know much bout nsw of how strict it is with its state laws , I am worried they keep saying they will take the baby away and give it to foster care/ adoption. I really don’t know what I’m doing wrong. The department isn’t explaining much to me as they are very broad and vague. they keep saying that because of my mental health they will take the baby away from us and partner is violent when he wasn’t violent they keep making false things up and saying there’s concerns but not explaining the concerns. I did struggle in high school years can they take baby away from the mother and give it to another family. But aren’t explaining much. and the worker here in nsw is talking on top of me and saying no no I am your daughters case worker. And talking on top of me. I don’t know what to do in this situation. if anyone can help me out.
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If the case worker won’t speak to you about that the “issue” is, demand to speak to someone with authority to disclose that information - they can’t disclose who made the report but shouldn’t be withholding reason.

@Erin they aren’t telling me any reason

You need to demand a reason. The social don’t just take your baby away from you without there being a reason. Please request to speak to someone else, lodge a complaint against your case worker if it means you’ll get speaking to someone who can provide an explanation or clarity around the situation. All the best!

@Sarah it didn’t add up

This definitely sounds like racism! They won't take a child from a white couple of drug abusers (I've seen it) but they would take yours ? I would try to find a mums group on Facebook and ask them who you can contact to have legal representation so they can help you out. You should definitely be told what's happening or why they are threatening you.

@Amandine they keep saying that and my partner starts panicking

@Amandine they keep saying that and keep talking on top of my partner. honestly they won’t even let me take my Abby where I feel comfortable and controlling me the child protection worker. And they aren’t open about what concerns they’ve got. They keep saying we’ve got concerns about your relationship and your baby. And say we can’t disclose that information. but also say they will take bub away from me and my partner cause he’s not a citizen of this country but I am and taking my mental health on everything. I don’t know but they’re treating this strange it’s not how the world works. where just new parents and where learning instead of support they keep saying we’ve will remove the child from your care.

I would definitely try and ask for a different case worker (maybe say that you have concerns they are treating you differently because of your skin colour?), but definitely ask other mums who to contact so you can get legal advice

@Amandine yeah I will.its not nice to be treated like that

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