If a long time friend sent you this would you be offended ?

I sent this to my long time friends hoping to have a stronger relationship moving forward and one of my friends replies that they would try and then later on texted “they thought long and hard and they think it’s best if we part ways” . We’ve always had a good friendship and I saw her as a sister so that response took me by surprise. See message below 👇🏾 Good morning, I’ve been reflecting on life and relationships lately, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you. I’d really like for us to have a more present and meaningful friendship—one where we show up for each other during milestones and important life changes. It would be great to spend time together doing things that don’t revolve around partying, like learning, growing, and trying new things. I understand that we’re at different stages in life—you’re young and single, while I’m a mom and in a committed relationship. I know I may not be the same “fun” friend I used to be, but growth brings change, and I’m embracing that. I’d also love for you to be more present in Summer’s life, whether that’s attending her birthday parties or just showing up for her in small but meaningful ways. I know I have areas where I can improve too, and I’m open to being held accountable as I grow. I’ll do the same for you. If I’m asking too much, I completely understand—sometimes friendships naturally grow apart. I just wanted to be honest and share where I’m coming from.
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I wouldn't be "offended" as she's just honest but I think your message was lovely. It's sad your friend doesn't wanna be there for you but that's their choice and priorities. She's shown that she wants nothing to do with a new mother and baby and that reflects on her maturity and I think you can only move forward. You're allowed to grieve the friendship, but I wouldn't push her.

@Susie Thanks for your POV , I really appreciate it !

Keep your head up I wouldn’t be offended I believe she is trying to be honest and upfront with you

I wouldn't be offended as such, but I wouldn't enjoy receiving that at all. Asking for something meaningful implies that what you already have/had in the past was not meaningful. I also would understand if someone took that as patronising that they're still at a different stage. I completely understand what you mean by this message, and that you have only good intentions here to nurture your relationships, but I would also understand why someone would feel put out by this. Good luck with it!

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