Change in relationship

It sounds like he trapped you into having a baby and now his true. Plies are showing…probably better to leave cuz people like that have zero interest in changing

I just want to put out there that Men can have postpartum depression as well. It's known as paternal postnatal depression. My husband most definitely had it after our son. Once I knew that men could have it too a lot of things made sense and I started reacting to him in different ways. Men have harder times expressing their emotions.

Thank you. I don’t think he trapped me though. We had a difficult journey to get our little one that no one would must themselves through if his intent was ever to trap, it doesn’t make sense. Perhaps he does have a bit of post natal if so any idea on how I can approach that? I just feel that I’m thinking of everyone else and no one is thinking of me. It’s draining.

I understand what you are feeling. I feel like that at times and I think that I feel like that because I don't always think to ask for help and I just expect others to know I need help. And when I get over stressed then I get upset that I'm not getting help. I have to remember that not everyone thinks like me. My husband and I have actually been working on our communication a lot since having our son. I started by asking him how he was doing and at first it was avoided or very little comment. If I noticed he was bothered by something I ask what was bothering him. And each day I try to get more and more out of him and the more I asked him about how he was doing he started asking me. Our communication is way better. Not perfect still working on it but it's so much better than it used to be. When I ask for help he'll help and he is starting to notice when I need help or ask if I need it more now as well. My husband didn't feel like anyone cared about his feelings so he was really cold and distant.