Family causing issues about my dog

With Christmas around the corner we are having a lot of family plans being made, but this is bringing up problems with my brother. For some reason he refuses to be around my dog. His son used to be a little scared of dogs but has been around my dog and has been ok, and his partner who also isn’t keen with dogs in general is also fine with my dog as he’s not the biggest and just ignores people if they don’t give him attention. But even though everyone else in the family is ok with my dog, my brother is refusing to go to any family gathering where my dog is present. It’s Christmas, my dog is like my son, and I don’t like leaving him on his own anyway, let alone at Christmas! I’ve now made my Christmas plans around not being in the same place as my brother at any point, but he keeps bringing up more and more occasions and it’s putting my mum in the middle. I don’t understand why there is an issue, and I’m just saying me and my family will stay home to make things easier as we see the family more throughout the year. But am I wrong for taking it personally? As it’s really starting to wear me down. Photo of my pup, he is called Buzz and a Westie x Jackapoo!
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I get it. I get people making comments hence coming round to my house demanding them to be put away. I think you’re absolutely valid in how you feel xx

That's so strange that your brother is suddenly kicking off about the dog when others are absolutely fine (including his partner and child, who you'd expect there to be an issue with.) I would feel exactly the same and would likely take it personally, because it's a bit ridiculous. Especially now that you've rearranged your entire Christmas to suit him. I don't know how close you are with him, but perhaps a one to one conversation about why he feels like this would be helpful? What has happened previous years? Christmas is about compromise. And can be stressful. But I would never inconvenience someone so much that they felt they needed to stay home. That's horrendous. Your pooch looks like a proper Good Boy and is obviously a huge part of your life. I'm terribly biased because I adore all animals (probably more than people) and so I will never understand the reasoning of those who don't like them. But even so...your brother is being very awkward here.

I don’t think you’re wrong for taking it personally, my dog was my first child so I’d be the same.. did he give like any reason at all?

I hope you manage to find a balance and can still see your family; hopefully with Buzz in tow. X

Ok I was expecting to see picture of a large dog because then I kind of get it. Your dog is small🙄 I don’t understand when people act like that about dogs. I’d definitely just not go to any functions he where is present .

Take it personally I would ! My boy is like my child and if anyone refused to be around for no good reason and cause issues especially at Christmas I’d take it so personal! To me the way he’s acting is as if he is wanting all the attention on him and his family and having your little cutie would take it away from him by the sounds of it anyways x

Thank you everyone, I’m not going crazy! Although I am now getting the guilt trip from the family… I try to accommodate a lot throughout the year but Christmas is meant to be about family and I’m sorry but my dog is my family! I would take the guinea pig too if I could!

There’s no way I would leave my dog at home over Xmas! Poor baby, you’re doing the right thing x

Stand by your pup, your brother is attention seeking IMO! 😘

Some people just don’t like being around dogs. My family is the same. I’ve got 2 dogs both of which are lovely & just want some fuss! But there’s only my sister who’ll come to my house because of them! It’s madness and so unfair I totally get how you feel I wouldn’t leave my dogs at Xmas either x

Dogs are more loyal, I'm on his side. 🐶🫶

You’re well within your rights to feel how you do I think your brother is being very over the top about it! I have a cat and people have come around and said take the cat out or put it in the other room and I’ve stood my ground and said I’m sorry but this is my cats home not yours so if you have a problem you can leave and it’s that simple I think the same should go for your lovely little dog if he has the problem he should stay at home and not you

Did something happen to your brother or his son with your dog/another dog? I haven't taken my baby round to my MIL because their dog bit me when I was pregnant and nips at people in general when excited. I just wouldn't risk my child getting hurt.

I’d stay home personally

@Gemma nope, my dog has never nipped anyone. They will happily go around to his in laws who have 2 big spaniels, one of which has such poor training it still poos in the house! They have been around my dog before, and he just ignores anyone who doesn’t give him attention from the start

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