Do you agree that people in a relationship, shouldn’t be using the term ‘baby daddy’?

I don’t mind much, but it just feels like you should be referring to them as your partner/husband? The term ‘baby daddy’ is literally so you have something to call the person who is the father of your child, but nothing else to you. It feels a little demeaning to the partners who are being referred to as this, as they are so much more than just your child’s dad. I know i’d be offended if I found out my husband was referring to me as his baby mama. It also makes it harder to respond to these posts with accurate advice sometimes! Coparenting and actually being together come with different realities, some advice for a coparent won’t be helpful for couples. I know it’s happened to me, where I comment on a post and they reply like ‘oh no we’re together’ and i’m like well that changes everything!😂 Just a thought I had, and I was wondering if it confuses anyone else too! 😂
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I don’t like the term baby daddy unless you’re not together . Find it quite tacky 😂😂🙈🙈

@Justina Exactly, me personally it sort of sounds like an insult as you are saying that they are nothing but the father of your child. it feels weird to use it in a loving relationship.

Yeah if I call my partner that he’ll be mad 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

My partner hates that word. I don't use the term baby daddy for friends who have them. I use sperm Donater but only if they're dead beats who don't do anything. If they're doing 50/50 custody they're still fathers who are doing their best.

I think people should be able to dictate whatever feels the most comfortable in their own relationships. If they’re comfortable saying baby dad and baby mom, then that’s their business. I’m currently pregnant by my man and we call each other baby dad and baby mom. We find it funny because our little one is a surprise and we really didn’t think this was something that would happen. I start laughing when he calls me baby mom, because Omg I am his baby mom now lol. I don’t find it demeaning. But don’t assume someone isn’t together because thats what they call them. You can change your thinking instead.

@Jessica or i’m allowed to have an opinion just like you? i haven’t judged anyone or said they should stop, i just said personally I wouldn’t like it ? I also think it is pretty normal for someone to assume if the term baby daddy is used that they are not together, as that is typically why it is used. i don’t have to change my thinking at all thankyou.

@Jessica it's when it's used with regret, anger, disgust (hateful emotions) that I have a problem with it. When it's used with positive emotions towards the other then that's totally different

@op im sorry, wasn’t this post a poll asking for opinions and you’re mad mine is different than yours 😂 okay.

@Elizabeth I just think if that’s their relationship, they get to call them whatever they are comfortable with.

@Jessica i’m not mad that yours is different at all. i just said you’re allowed your opinion. my whole post was so people could share their opinions. im just saying that i don’t need to change my way of thinking, because you don’t agree with mine.

@op but your post also states people shouldn’t call their SO baby dad or baby mom. I just know I can’t change other people, but I can definitely change my own way of thinking and my own ways of reacting 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Jessica Only because I didn’t know how else to make it clear which way agree or disagree was, as I posted before and realised it made no sense so i made the title easier to agree/disagree with. But nowhere in my post did I say they shouldn’t, I said I don’t understand / it confuses me and would personally be offended. I don’t think this is a situation where anyone’s opinion needs to be changed - and I definitely don’t need to change my thinking everyone is allowed to say something would offend them. I was just curious if it was only me who felt this way and clearly it isn’t. You are the only one who has said anyone’s opinion or thinking needs to change. i haven’t disagreed with your opinion, I just stayed firm in my own.

I’m not together with my child’s father and I hate the term “my BD/BM” especially when you don’t even do shit.

I don’t really mind it, if they didn’t give the detail that they were together I wouldn’t assume that their together, but like their lack of info put us in that situation so whatever responses they get are only as helpful as the info they give in the original post LOL

I DO agree to some extent BUT there are still cases where you could be talking about your current partner, who isnt your babys father? And in SOME of those cases, it does kind of make sense to me to clarify, specially if what youre talking about gives off the wrong impression of one, or both, of those men? I mean, my partner is my sons dad, so i do clarify sometimes, and i dont even know why. Anyone who actually knows me or my life that i speak to, knows ive been with him for 3 years, (baby is currently 8 months in the womb still) but if im talking to strangers orr like making a post on here? Sometimes id clarify? Just in case? Then again, obviously every relationship is different. Every mums life is different so thats not always the case. Just wanted to make that case for both sides. :)

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