Prenup’s?

My husband made me get one early in our relationship because he had wealth and I had nothing. I wasn’t offended because I had no intention of taking anything of his, I’m not entitled to it 🤷‍♀️ Things are a bit different in NZ where I live, the document we signed protected his wealth accrued prior to our relationship. But the wealth we accrue together isn’t pre-nupped if that makes sense. So if we split I’d probably get half of what we’ve accrued since being together.

I think if you have a problem with a prenup, you're not in that relationship for the right reasons. The only reason to get angry about not getting anything on a divorce is if you go into the marriage planning the divorce. We got a prenup even though neither of us really own anything, but for the safety of us both and now our daughter, we got one. We'd part ways with what we arrive with, plus half of whatever we make together xx

I think everyone should get a prenup. Personally, I think if you're offended by the idea of one, you're not in a relationship for the right reasons.

Wasn’t offended at all. We both entered the relationship with our own earnings and own savings. It’s about fairness for both of you and the children if the worst happens, not sure why that would upset anyone unless one party wanted financial gain xx

I think it's sensible, you have to remember that you enter into a marriage as best friends and if the marriage does end it may be that you are suddenly worse enemies. A prenup is just to ensure things are fair and as agreed when you first started and had each other's best interests at heart, given that you may not be feeling much compassion towards the other party at the end of a marriage! In reality if you have no intention of splitting up or taking more than you are entitled to there should really be no issue signing a contract to confirm that

I offered to get one to protect his assets but he said no. I’m all for being smart. No one has intentions of divorce but I wanted him to know I wasn’t interested in profiting off of him. I love him for him. I also make more money than him and have a great pension he could go after. We just agreed to be civil if things come down to it. But we will see.

I take it slightly offensive because woman halt their careers to bear children. Our whole lives change. Our financial circumstances change. And can you even imagine if he leaves you and the children for another woman and you get absolutely nothing?

Me and my partner don’t have a signed prenup but we both have a mutual agreement to not touch the other things if it goes south and everything we’d bought together shall get split evenly between us.

Every situation is different, incog. I haven’t halted my career or education, I came into the relationship with more than him and make just as much as him salary wise. I know personally a woman who did the cheating and the leaving and still tried to destroy her husband after being “best friends” for 20 years. A prenup would have benefited him.

I do not. However, every situation is unique. And in the state of Texas, all assets prior to marriage are your own. And I do think if a partner stopped their career for the family, they're entitled to half of what the other partner brings in.

Wish I would have gotten one. Married my childhood best friend and the divorce and custody battle has been a nightmare and still going after 5 years and 170k in lawyer fees. I’m engaged now, and he knows I want the prenup. He has no objections considering all the BS I’ve been through with my ex. So I would definitely not be offended if someone asked me for it.

He said if we ever split we would just divide everything 50/50 and custody 50/50. He didn’t honor that at all and without the prenup I couldn’t prove it so still fighting him as he is coming after me for child support and has only wanted custody of 1 of the 2 children. It’s a mess. It’s exhausting.

Incog, I think it's a bit of a blanket statement to say that women halt their careers and their whole lives change when having children. Men's lives change as well. I haven't halted my career and there are tons of women who are the bread winners of their family. Every situation is going to be different.

A prenup protects both parties. In no way do you need to just sign it. Read it in its entirety and have your attorney do the same. Come to the table with your own stipulations. Prenups are negotiable. This allows you to have some security should the marriage go awry.