Anyone else?

That’s concerning. I’d be worried about him eventually turning those frustrations into something physical. He should talk to someone about why it’s bothering him so easily

Some people are sensitive to auditory stimulation. Or have misophonia. Or, that is how he processes or deals with anxiety. I have eardrum damage, so when my LO hits a certain pitch, it causes me actual pain. I used to have to leave the room. I had to get noise canceling headphones for my sanity.

Look into loop earplugs

I would be concerned about that to be honest, how can a baby crying irritate the father.

I can understand that it can be overwhelming and frustrating but being mean about it isn't okay. He needs to get himself in check and work out a new way of handling how much it bothers him (such as loop earplugs ect) speaking unkindly to the baby is never okay and how can he be a leader for her to handle her feelings when he can't handle his own. That being said and not to be rude. I do get it. It can be soo overstimulating some of the noises babies can make can make me want to scream even fr. But I mean as an adult you just hold that in ya kno. If he's willing to find a better then that would be nice and if not I'd honestly worry about his emotional maturity and possible deeper issue

Wow! 😳

I wouldn't leave anyone alone with my kid.

My bf is the same way drives me crazy

@ren this 100 % agree

That is ridiculous. Your little one is communicating the only way she knows how. If he had tried to pay attention to her body language and her voice he may have figured out what it was that she wanted. He should actively be trying to communicate with her as well. It seems he does not want to be active in her upbringing, he'd rather run away. I would have a talk with him about this. See if it is the actual sound that bothers him or the lack of wanting to figure her out.

I feel like this is so bad and could get worse. I would probably get a divorce.

This is very concerning. I wouldn’t leave my daughter alone with someone who treated her that way.

Have you asked him why he's struggling with her crying/shouting? Or discussed his responses to baby trying to communicate? Not entirely in agreement with those who feel it's grounds for divorce, based on this one tiny snapshot. Leaving the situation where he feels overwhelmed sounds safer than getting more angry or upset in front of baby imho... is there anything else he does that worries you?

@Sophie he says he just can’t stand it. He compared it to nails on a chalkboard. I have told him before he needs to calm down and not just leave the room or shout like that and he takes it as me saying “I’m right and perfect and he’s wrong” No he’s a great dad when he’s not on his phone 🤷🏼‍♀️ not concerned about how he treats her in any other capacity.

It could be just a few small changes, if he is preoccupied he won’t notice and observe the build up to what is bothering little one. So, less phone time? Perhaps, like in your example tell him you noticed the toy was blocking the bookcase and how she was ok after this. Of course, it won’t be as easy as that every time but sometimes it IS a quick fix. I also think him leaving the room, although not ideal, is better than staying and getting more frustrated or angry with little one so he may be trying to calm down. However, he does need to actively try and problem solve and take measures to help keep himself calm in those situations. He could get more outdoor play as the crying will be less intense. Remind him (I’ve reminded myself!) children are JUST communicating the way they can and they will learn to express if we model it. There are plenty of resources and tools out there (even therapy if it gets intense like this regularly), if he wants to support you and be a good role model.

They said people that can’t tolerate babies/little kids being loud is because they weren’t tolerated when they were little. He needs to talk to someone or else the cycle will continue. Your baby needs to feel safe to be as loud as she can when she’s playing and having fun. If she can’t do that in her own home where else

@America that’s exactly what I told him!! She never yells when we go out only at home so I’m like who cares what she does at home. I let her scream and be as loud as she wants (within reason of course) and we never let her cry more than 2min so 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️