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Same :/ pushing 4 years
I e been with my husband 20 years and we’ll be married for 11. We had our son almost 2 years ago and I have zero interest in him and have zero interest in sex. I’m so tapped out from having my toddler clinging and following me around all day that I don’t want a needy husband too. He’s so desperate for sex and I feel bad sometimes but I just don’t want him 🤷🏼♀️ Sex is so uncomfortable and painful too that I don’t even want to bother. He doesn’t attempt to warm the oven before putting the meat in either.
I've felt like this, however I found I was unhappy and it resulted in being tapped out of our sex life. We have one LG and no one to really watch her for us to go out & have a date night. I find watching a show together does nothing for our relationship. What has really helped, is having conversations together about anything & everything. I even brought this stupid card game off tiktok called "talking hearts' and although it's a Christmas gift, so we haven't played it properly.... We pulled a couple cards out & asked the questions on them & let the other answer. You have to remember, we change so much each year, let alone when we have a child. You need to reconnect emotionally before you can really reconnect with sex, at least that's what I've found.
Can our OBGYN prescribe something?
@Felecia don’t have one I’m in uk
Thanks for making me feel normal! He so wants me and I’m like no. My mood is definitely low but not low enough to need meds
You can speak to your Dr about this btw! I'm also from the UK. Sometimes the hormones following babies can be all over the show & take years to return to normal, it might be worth speaking to them about it & getting some bloods done. Even speaking to a therapist might help? I've done both.
@Star like a regular therapist or specialised one ?
I did IAPT (talking therapies, you can refer yourself) and just spoke about things going on in my life etc (because we have babies under the age of 1, we get priority) but you can also speak to your Dr and see what they suggest
@Star thank you!
Have you had your hormone levels checked or your thyroid? How about vitamin D levels?
Try foria lunricant? It stimulates both of you and could help make it more pleasurable …
@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ no but I do need to get my thyroid checked soon anyway! I’m on yearly checks because of family history
Same here. He wants me really bad but I haven’t had a drive for years and I just had another baby, our 4th. Restarting the whole no sex drive process all over again but our relationship itself is great. It gets better.
Same about sex life. Been 1 1/2 for me