Feeling like I’m failing my kids..

I’m a stay at home mom to my beautiful girls and my husband has been our only income for 3 years now. I struggle really badly with depression since I was a teen so over 15 years with it. And with that comes the trauma from which the depression stems from (childhood abuse). lately with it being Christmas anf my sisters loving my kids and buying them anything and everything but as a mom I feel like a failure.. I feel bad because we are on a tight income and I can’t buy them everything they ask for.. and honestly it makes me feel even worse when we’re out and I say I can’t afford something at the moment but they buy it (it’s not a bad thing, I love that my girls will never go without) but it hurts inside with me knowing I couldn’t do that for them.. or I couldn’t get the out lunch that day and they really wanted it.. I’ve contemplated getting a part time job but the only people semi available to watch my girls are people I can’t trust 110% to not hurt my daughters the way I was growing up.. ( my sisters both work full time plus some) and I don’t know what to do to stop feeling like I’m a failure and how I feel like I’m failing my kids.. I’m struggling heavily today and really needed to get this off my chest..

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I literally just made a post about this but if you’re open I can talk to you about what I’m doing to make some extra money. Just dm me if so

Sending you love btw.

It can definitely feel like failure when we arent able to provide toys/fun for our kids. It's important to remember that you are providing a stable home with everything they need: food, clothes, love, attention, understanding, etc. Your depression is just being a rude little guy (I also have depression and anxiety) and trying to convince you that you aren't doing enough, but you are! You even said that you dont want to get a part time job because the people available to watch them cannot be trusted 110%. You're keeping them loved and safe! ❤️

@Kitty is it an at home thing? I am open to options but just don’t want to have to depend on others

@Stephanie I appreciate this words more than you think 🥺😭 i get so much shit from my family about being a mom with mental health issues and it’s so nice to hear it not be used against me 🥹

Yes it’s from home on your phone or laptop. I understand I’m the same way

I fully understand! I felt like a huge failure yesterday as I got absolutely nothing done around the house, didnt cook dinner, etc. And the stuff I did try, did not go well, tried to hang some shelves (ended up with 2 holes in the wall from the anchors and no shelves), I broke out kitchen scissors LOL, and I barely ate (but my daughter had 3 meals) And then I had to change my perspective because my daughter is a little under the weather and has been VERY clingy. So my day was spent being a comfort to her and making sure she was well taken care of and its okay for other things to be on the backburner for a minute when our babies need us so much!

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