Emotional cheating

I don't think there's a set time limit but if you're staying with the person who cheated on you, eventually you do have to get over it to actually move on/have a healthy relationship, assuming they're putting in the effort too. If you're constantly going to bring it up, it's constantly going to cause issues, you're having to check their phone/don't trust them etc there's no point being together.

@Alex not sure if you would know, but is it normal to have spontaneous moments where you think about it? For the most part I’m over it. But obviously if a notification pops on his phone and it’s a woman immediately I overthink and spiral. I don’t know if that means I’m 100% over it or not

I've only stayed with one person who cheated on me and that was something I experienced, up until I left him. Ultimately I realised I'd never truly trust him again and as you've said for the most part I was over it but I knew I'd never have that full trust in him again and I didn't want to live that way.

I don’t think anyone can just “get over it”. That is something that would require ongoing healing.

I know people who have stayed and they never get over it 😕

Idk I’ve never gotten over it. It’s pretty much over with after that. Whatever version you get will never be the same

I would never get over being cheated on. I guess I would have time to work on it from my jail cell though. 🧐

I don’t think one ever really gets over it. My ex cheated on me and I stuck with him for 2.5 more years but every so often I had doubts in the back of mind.

Some people never get over it so they just move on. I’m one of those people.

It truly depends on yourself. I forgive and stayed. He has put the work and effort. Be open and transparent about everything. I have those moments and I wouldn’t be thinking about it. I sometimes have flashbacks. It’s been a year since it happened but because I recently gave birth to our second child, my hormones is all over the place. So, I’m at my most vulnerable spot. My husband understands and gives me that reassurance when I need them.

Emotionally or physically, that's something I couldn't and wouldn't be able to get over. I'd never see them in the same light again.

Trust is broken. It takes people any amount of time to earn it back. The fact that you still spiral into thought is cuz you don’t trust them still. And you might not for awhile. Maybe having a conversation with them and having them be extremely opened with you about everything can help rebuild the trust? Even the phone going on, having him tell you what it is. Who it is. On his own tho, Could help.

Honestly, never... not fully unfortunately imo, there will always be moments of doubt, those moments will likely get further apart but will pop up again when you least expect it 😔

It’s not up to other people. It’s up to you. There isn’t a set time each person is different. This is the time for you to truly put your feelings first. Can you forgive them? Have you? Do you feel like you can trust them? If trust is gone, will you stay? Etc.