Thoughts...

My husband and I have been together for 9 years (married for 1 year). I have a daughter (14 years old) from a previous relationship. We haven't used protection our whole relationship, and I haven't been on birth control since my daughter was 2. He used to say that he can't have kids, hence the reason I haven't gotten pregnant. at that time, he was unsure whether or not that was true. I was hopeful and said, "Let's go to the Dr. to confirm if it's true or not." (Because we really wanted another child) we agreed that if he can't have them, we can ask his brother to be a donor(just provide the sperm, not physical interaction).. anyway, his brother got a vasectomy, so that wasn't an option...fast forward, we go to Dr. earlier this year, and he confirms that SO can't have kids.😞 and ivf is an option for us. Later that night and for the rest of the week, we discuss our options, we're in agreement of going through with it, but I I feel as though my husband is not really 100% okay with it because he'll mention something about him turning 40 this year and he's unsure whether or not he wants to be to be a older dad(with a baby) but I don't know for sure and he's like weird about it. Sometimes he'll bring up the fact that Nyby my daughter is already 14 and in a few years she'll be out the house and then we can like go travel and stuff and if we bring a new baby in then will it be hard to do that and I'm like well I think we can work it out. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to like not go through it and then eventually resent him.