Man child

I need to know everyone’s response to said situation. Haven’t said anything to him yet. Last night I decided it would be a good idea for me to mop the floor like I was down there on my knees cleaning it real good, not that it was that dirty but I like to keep things clean. Now…when I woke up today, walked out of the bedroom I noticed my boyfriend wore his dirty boots in the house. Mud on my floor that I just cleaned. Also, after I clean the bathroom he destroys it, like spits his spit down and it hits the top of the toilet seat he can’t even wipe it up. He spits in the sink leaving nasty dip spit everywhere. Everytime I clean something he destroys it. It makes me not want to clean anymore because why do something for him to mess up then bitch at me because I didn’t clean. Would you feel appreciated if you cleaned all for your partner to destroy it within what hours of me even cleaning the floor. I just don’t understand why he doesn’t want a nice place to live, walk and go to the bathroom. I plan to tell him to clean up his mess once he gets home but I just feel as he is an adult he should know better so why do I have to tell him. He should already know!

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Your not his mom or maid so he needs to get it together, I would be annoyed

You’re right, he’s an adult, he SHOULD know better but clearly he doesn’t give a shit. Have the conversation. He may not even notice when you freshly clean an area but he does need to be aware of when he’s dirtying something. Clean up after yourself is something we learned in kindergarten, if he doesn’t understand that concept I’d start being petty by cleaning up and leaving the wipes or mud flakes or whatever it might be in one of his frequent use areas. Make it a problem that he will want to correct.

Create a spot by the door for him to leave his shoes, no outside shoes in the house. the spit is a common sense thing where if you drip, you clean You shouldn't have to clean up after some basic common knowledge things you dirty you clean simple

I’m a stay at home mom with my asd child right now. Doesn’t mean I’m a maid. He knew I was cleaning he saw me on the floor cleaning. I’ve told him to clean up after himself but he just don’t.

i can’t even think of anything except continue being his mother or leave 🙂 i was gonna say i would tell him once, point out the things like his shoes and his dip spit, ask him to clarify that he knows he should clean up after himself. if he says he will and keeps up great, if he starts a fight and says he shouldn’t have to clean up after himself i would tell him im not your fucking mother clean up after yourself or i’m leaving🤷‍♀️

I feel like he’s doing it deliberately to get a rise out of you/in order to be controlling. It seems like he doesn’t have any respect for you. Sorry, you’re dealing with that 😔

Well ladies I charged him a $50 cleaning bill and he paid it so next time he better think twice

Did you notify him in advance that you planned to clean? If not, I'd do so, so he can't tell you you didn't clean. If you want to send him proof, take a before and after picture, or do one of those hyperlapses of you cleaning (just once).

@Mei that’s doing too much but good idea tho

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