I mean personally if he hasn’t been really present during the pregnancy you’re not obliged to share your safe space with someone who doesn’t respect you right now. Plus if he doesn’t communicate to anyone in your home don’t you feel your parents would find it disrespectful and want him out. You can’t take accountability for his behaviour but you can choose what you want to tolerate from him 🤷🏽♀️ Sometimes how you’re treated during pregnancy is all you need to know about that person x
Yeah he’s a little boy still, honestly I’d say this relationship isn’t working out but you’re still welcome to be in the baby’s life. My little sister’s best friend had this exact situation and the dad used to visit the baby for a few hours a day, then a week and then now a fortnight maybe if that? The immaturity during the pregnancy remained the same after the birth and now she’s married to a lovely new man with a new baby on the way and sees her first baby’s dad as free childcare now and then so she can clean the house. Don’t waste your time trying to force an adult relationship with someone who’s mentally a child 💕
This sounds very complicated but you have to think what will be best for you and baby in the long run. He sounds like 16 year old boy with no manners and common sense. No care in his bones at all, question is would you ever trust to leave a baby with him if he’s so absolutely care free ? I mean you can wait and see how he is when baby is born some men grow up in situations like this but he sounds nasty and rude.