Anyone else feel like a single parent?

I felt like this especially at the start!!! I felt very alone and as he complained I ended not wanting to ask him to do anything as it would always feel like a chore. He is getting better but I do have to remind him. I don’t knock him as he does a lot round the house but I do say I don’t mind doing the house work if he looks after baby for a bit of a break. I feel like women have a natural instinct for caring for a baby. You’re not alone, stay positive and just try and talk to him about it!x

I just sat down with my partner and had a *VEERRRY* lengthy discussion about this. I don’t think a lot of men have the same understanding of parenting as we do, at least that’s what I’ve gathered. A lot of what’s obvious for us isn’t really as obvious to them and I think it’s because the change we have had to confront since pregnancy of the priority being shifted to a mentality of you caring for someone else you haven’t seen or held yet is not something men encounter until the baby is out. I am NOT saying this is an excuse for all men. Definitely not. Some men just really lack actual comprehension of what they assume we need because sometimes we’re not spelling it out for them. Example, my partner and I had a semi heated discussion this morning on his day off

about how it’s messed up to assume that just because it’s your day off and you’d normally be at work means you can take your hands off parenting. In this household, we share responsibility and just because I’m a SAHM It doesn’t mean I’m “on the clock” with my newborn and toddler… like you can’t just lock yourself away on game and ignore all responsibility

When I tell you i fully almost divorced my husband over this, the first 5 weeks I didn’t all on my own, nicu the lot. Ended up really losing my tempter and told him it’s either step up or split up because I’d rather be fully alone than be with someone who makes me feel alone. He asked to sit down and come up with a routine that works for us..and allows us both to get the rest we need….dont get me wrong nights are still tedious as I still do them alone but atleast I have some respite and support now xxx

My husband was like this, got into an argument about it a few weeks back and had a VERY long conversation about it and has been much better since. However, annoys me that it even had to come to that.