First Christmas

So my babies dad left me when I was pregnant and in hospital with sepsis I was approx 25 weeks at that point, couple of weeks later he went on tinder whilst I was still really poorly and started dating other girls.. fast forward he then missed the birth of his son because he went to watch the boxing and took coke with his friends following that he turned up to see his son several times whilst off his face it got to the point where I had to stop access he then went and told everyone I just bitter because he left me, after 3 months I reached out to him to allow him access again with x mas approaching I didn’t want my boy to not see his daddy for his first Christmas.. whilst he wasn’t seeing his son he got with someone else our little boy was only 2 months old at the time he’s just told me he’ll only be staying a couple of hours on x mas day as he’s going to see her in the evening.. Am I right for being pissed off and thinking that irs unacceptable and feel that that day he should be spending it with his son and playing with his toys with him he’s never spent a full day with him since the day he was born! I feel really angry and I’m just wondering would anyone else feel like this

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This seems like you are a ftm and haven’t experienced coparenting with the other parent. Unfortunately, when coparenting there should always be boundaries. You need to understand that your coparent probably doesn’t want to be monitored by you to see yalls child even though he has a questionable behavior when it comes to what he has done it isn’t your job to monitor dad with the child. There are supervision centers that offer these types of services. A baby as young as 6 months isn’t going to have the attention span of playing for hours straight. I think you are more upset that you didn’t get that family you thought you would which might be clouding your situation.

@Natasha Could you please share some examples of boundaries for co-parenting?

@Alejandra some boundaries would include: 1. No reminiscing the past relationship. 2. All communication being about the child. 3. No late night messaging after 6pm unless an emergency about the child. 4. Go family get togethers. And plenty more

My babies dad is wanting to sleep most weekends, wants me to take the baby to his sisters x mas Eve for x mas dinner so that his parents can see all 3 grand kids together then tells me he’ll be going to see his gf on x mas day! He texts whenever it suits him and expects to come and go as he pleases!! I initially ended the relationship although he was not having any of it until it suited him! I have no problem with him having a gf I just wish he’d focussed on being a dad and establishing these boundaries first! I am continuously having to work around him and I don’t get much back I don’t even get to spend time with my horse anymore and have very little me time!! He’s said he doesn’t want any man around our son as he can’t stand the idea of someone else seeing him more than he does!! So where do I go from here?

Get a custody order. Move on and stop allowing him to make decisions for your life.

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