Why did you get a divorce ?

Abusive partner.

@Audrey I’m sorry to hear that. All abuse is terrible no matter what form but was it physical? My partner sometimes will insult/shout at me when he is upset (anything can trigger this) and he doesn’t realise this is abuse too.

Unresolved addiction issues and cheating

@Kim this is definitely a reason many people leave and I don’t blame them. There are certain things you do not want around your kids

Abuse

It wasn't much physical because when it started getting there, I straight away left. I didn't want my kids to witness any of that. It's only after that I realised all the emotional abuse, financial abuse and more!! I'd not seen it coming at all, it feels like he had changed over the years or maybe that's just the way some people operate, they start nice so you trust them and then when they think you're stuck they show their true colours. I agree with you, insulting & shouting at your partner is abuse too. I hope you can work through it with your partner. Does he apologise after? Are there other things he does that are not okay? Hugs your way!

@Audrey unfortunately most of the time he doesn’t apologise or will give a half ass one. He is very good at putting whatever on me and making it my fault. An example, one of his sister sent our daughter $100 for Christmas and he didn’t tell me. I was speaking to her without him knowing, as I was out and she mentioned it and I was surprised but she said she only sent it earlier that day. When I got home, I didn’t say it straight away, I waited for hours and he didn’t say nothing. I even asked if he has anything to tell me and instead he asked me the same question. I even tried to hint by emphasising that our daughter needs new clothes and he said nothing. That night I said, “when were you gonna tell me your sister sent money for our daughter”. He didn’t reply. The next morning, I waited a bit then asked why he didn’t tell me and that statement immediately triggered an argument. He turned it into me being controlling and saying how he doesn’t need to tell me anything.

It’s been a couple days, we are not speaking and he says I am not getting that money even though I am the one who physically buys our children everything they need, he has never wondered if they needed clothes or shoes or gone out to get any.