Guys, my mother in law is starting to really affect me mentally

Called her out on it and when she went on the offensive I cut her off completely and my husband took my side

I just stay as civil as possible for the sake of my husband. I treat her like an acquaintance, with no in depth conversations because we are just too different.

Grey rock method. Look it up. I use it for my Dad. Set boundaries and starve them of any drama.

How do you cut her off completely? @Katie

I've tried to be as civil as long as possible. I've been with my fiance for 8 years and I feel like I'm just putting on a facade. @Kayla

I think I've been actually using that method. I just never knew that that's what I was doing. But I'm at the point where I don't even want to give her any energy bc of how toxic she is. @Hopeful

@Sam we kind of got into over the phone so I said she was no allowed near me, my child, or my home and blocked her. My husband saw all the issues and saw what she was saying to me so he also blocked her completely and blocked his father as well. We see his brother on the side occasionally and whenever we can but other than that we don’t celebrate holidays or interact with her at all. Feel free to message me if you want to talk more!

Don’t let her affect you. Just know that she is the way she is because she is unhappy and miserable in her own life. Either be civil or cut her off completely.

I guess it depends on what she's doing. My husband addresses his mom's behavior directly. He sets boundaries and calls out the things she does, and doesn't back down if she plays the victim.

@JL You’re lucky.

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I always tell myself that too but I'm just tired of putting on a front that I like her when I actually hate her more than anything. @Incognito

I wish mines would. I feel like I'm the stronger and more outspoken one when he allows everyone to walk all over him. @JL

Don’t visit or talk to her

i share my feelings with my husband and make sure we’re on the same page and !STAY AWAY! if a person cannot respect you they shall not be apart of your life. protect your peace alongside your husband. if he’s not on your side that’s a whole different issue.

Bring it up with her. You need to express how you feel because she may not see it how you see it and if she doesn’t change then have some space from her. And pray about it!!!

Cut her off. It’s the only thing that works, if she’s a narcissist

Don't live with her ever