AITA? Constant bickering anyone else?

I find it extremely triggering when my husband doesn’t listen to me or dismisses me. I get rather pissed off and annoyed because I believe it’s a shitty thing to do. I was trying to talk to him one evening this week about timings for Christmas Day as we are hosting. We’ve got two kids and two adults to consider. He was too tired to talk to me apparently (like we are all tired here right?) so he shut the conversation down. Then another time a friend wanted to bring her sick kids to our house. So I wanted to talk over the options about that. I didn’t want to be rude but we don’t want what they’ve got. Especially the baby, he doesn’t deserve a trip to the hospital. Hubby didn’t like the topic of convo so he shut me down. Yesterday I was trying to open our front door with his keys. He asked if I had the right one, I said yes, but my hands are cold it’s difficult. So he repeated himself like I hadn’t said anything. So I repeated myself and showed him the key. He still didn’t believe I was using the correct one so my dad leaned over and helped me open the door. Even today, I have explained I was using the correct key and he doesn’t believe me. These stupid situations happen all the time. I get annoyed and frustrated because he doesn’t listen to me and then he says I have an attitude problem and I make him feel bad. AITA? Feels like I’m losing my mind! I hate the holidays as it’s always just miserable.