Nursing to sleep

I used to nurse to sleep as well and she slept brilliantly but I’d always be putting her down when she was already asleep and wanted to encourage her to fall asleep herself & I have had to add 15m cuddle into the routine to make her drowsy but not asleep and now she’s starting to fall asleep independently but it’s taken weeks to get to that

So do you breastfeed then stop before she falls asleep and cuddle for 15 min instead? I’m unsure how to do it gradually because currently she would cry for hours if I didn’t nurse her to sleep 😥

So I used to do bath & pyjamas downstairs with the lights on then go upstairs to a dark room and do the swaddle, song & BF to sleep I just rearranged slightly to do the bath, pyjamas & the last feed downstairs with the lights on then go upstairs into the dark to do the swaddle and song still and have had to stay there and cuddle her until she’s drowsy but not involving nursing at all at that point. I will warn when I started it was taking me 3 hours to put her down to now maybe 15-30m so u have to be patient

As for contact napping I only did it for the first 3 weeks maybe then I just kept being persistent with putting her down, it took at least 4 weeks I want to say for her to get used to it and a lot of resistance but they do slowly get used to it if u keep persisting and be patient. My LG gets reassured by my voice if she wakes up now rather than me having to pick her up. It’s hard it takes time but they can do it they just have to learn but that’s my approach to things and I understand everyone parents differently and there’s nothing wrong with that. Lots of people will say what ur doing is perfectly fine if it works for YOU then u don’t need to change a thing. Good luck x

@Nicole that’s so helpful thank you! Not looking forward to this but her sleep is awful and I’m nursing her back to sleep like 3-4 times before midnight. Can’t keep it up 😴

@Rhonda look up the comfort/soothing ladder

I cosleep and just recently stopped breastfeeding to sleep for bed time. I do BF for about 5-10 minutes before I tell my son we are all done. Then he plays for a few minutes and then rolls around for a few minutes, then falls asleep. This is our second week into it and I feel it is going well. The first two days were rough. I also am first trying to settle him back to sleep when he wakes in the night before giving him boob for comfort. That has been hit or miss but we will get there. After a few weeks of my son getting used to this new normal, I will work on naps. He still feeds to sleep for those. I have been leaving him to sleep alone rather than contact napping the last month. He does need resettling with boob sometimes halfway through his nap.