My mother-in-law/inlaws are completely unkind and don't seem to care about me at all.

I've been married to my husband for 7 years, I've known him and his family for 17. I've always dealt well with his mother, who really isn't kind to anyone and is extremely judgmental about everything, and has a very high opinion of herself and her family. But now, it's just really gone too far. The second I told them on a call with my husband that I was pregnant, they never reached out to see how I was doing, how I was feeling, etc. About a month after telling them, I got a letter from my husbands father saying how much they wanted to be involved with the child's life, how hard it was going to be for my husband and I because we are "older" (his words, not mine), how hard it was going to be for me and how much my "beauty and self would be challenged" (this is coming from a man, a man I'm not close to). Anyways, that I shut down pretty quick and let him know I was highly offended and it wasn't his place. He apologized, and we moved on, But honestly the audacity still gets me. Then and probably worse is his mom, never once checked in on me, and we spent a week with them at thanksgiving and the first thing she asked me about anything was are you going to breastfeed - then when I said I am going to do my damnest to do it, she said well you just have to do it. Just constant little jibes she throws my way, never supportive, like oh "what do you really need for your baby shower, I don't want to get you something you don't need", then before I have a chance to answer, "you don't know do you" with a dismissive laugh. Like this is her second grandchild and she's just mean, a bully and it's Christmas and it's really made me sad. If you've read this far, thank you. I do have my own family who is very supportive but I live in California and I'm distance wise closer to his parents than mine when I'm home (currently on the east coast for the holidays with my family). But I guess if I had a question it would be would you just keep accepting this behavior or say something? Would you try to make a point of calling it out when it happens or have a time to talk to them about their behavior and let them know it's really hurtful, or would you just let it go and stay away from them? Thanks for listening ❤️