I'm jealous of my husband! Please don't judge as I'm judging myself enough!

My husband comes across smarter than me because I'm never eager to show my knowledge with people because I'm worried I may not articulate it properly, and I also have less interest in showing off. But my husband has a calmer demeanour than I do and loves to share his wisdom with others. He is 5 years older than me. I'm successful in my career but earn slightly less than him. I help with questions he has, and many times, I help us get out of difficult situations. I have started to care for whay others think of our relationship lately, and have been openly told how lucky I am to have my husband as he takes care of the major issues in life. I'm now not just hurt but jealous of my husband. I don't want to share these feelings of mine with my husband as things are, anyways not so great. Should I change my personality and be less chirpy and more serious, and share more of my knowledge to change this narrative of others? Thanks so much for reading.

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I don’t think you should change your personality in any way. Having a serious demeanor has little to nothing to do with how intelligent you are. In fact it’s people who constantly feel the need to share wisdom with others that I personally feel come off more as trying to be smart versus the actual intellectual and inquisitive minds that are often silent and ask questions. Just engage in conversation like you do normally :) I’m sure people will see your mind in time if they haven’t already! As far as people commenting on how lucky you are to have him, I think that has more to do with the conditions and standards of marriage and men in general unfortunately haha. My husband held our daughter for most of the wedding which we attended where he met most of my family at and just because they saw him holding his kid instead of pounding shots everyone acted as if I had married a saint and was congratulating me left and right 😂

Yeah as above. Talk and act like you always do you don’t have to change for anyone. When certain subjects come up that I have knowledge on I’ll speak up, share my knowledge join the convo if not I’ll stay out and maybe ask some questions to be interested and learn more. I don’t really look smart but when we start playing word games that’s when people realise 😂 like Scrabble. I always win lol. And last night for Xmas we played a word game (16 of us so 8 teams) similar to family feud where a word is called out and we have to guess a common conjoined word and loser or a team that didn’t have a common answer w another team- takes a shot of Soju 😂 me and Hubby on one team didn’t have much shots at all lol. Just act and talk like you normally do, and when the subject/convo/occasion calls for your knowledge then share it then 💁🏻‍♀️ we can’t all be smart in everything. Like for numbers and equations I’ll go to Hubby since he’s a walking calculator and for words/grammar my fam generally asks me.

Thanks, ladies. I need to change something about myself to alter how I think about myself. Better self esteem will change how I take the comments from relatives. But again thanks so much for your inputs. ❤️

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