STOP ROCKING TO SLEEP
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@Em hi! thank you💓 did you start with naps or bedtime or would you say it doesn’t really matter? i always pick her up when she starts crying and screaming as it’s physically impossible to keep patting her bum/stroking her back as she just lays on her back and starts kicking! i feel like trying this she’ll just get overtired and fall asleep after ages of me trying. would you say to just try it for only 10-15mins every nap time and if she cries to rock her? how long did it take for your little one to get used to it? AH THESE BABIES……💓
I started with naps as he usually fed to sleep for bedtime. I’d stroke his chest if he wanted to lie on his back. You could try putting her down a little bit earlier to account for the extra time it’ll take her to get to sleep. I just tried for 10/15 minutes, unless he’s got himself completely worked up (as in not just crying, but distraught) then we would have a break and play for 5 mins. I think it probably took a couple of weeks, but he’s been going to bed happily since about a year old now & will happily lie in bed babbling in the morning when he wakes. We’re currently doing the same thing with my second & we stopped rocking to sleep on New Year’s Day & now he’s mostly going down for naps with me just stroking his back. It all goes a bit wrong if I get his wake window wrong though and then he’ll need rocking 😂
@Em oh god if i start playing with her after trying to get her to sleep that will be game over for us, no way is she falling asleep after that😬 how old was he when you started? i feel bad because she’s teething and if she’s crying because she’s in pain and wants to be held but instead im just stroking her back i would not be able to forgive myself🤣🥺however though i am EXHAUSTED, almost every nap and bedtime is a battle and omg!!! such quick progress, it’s only taken him 4 days??? well done!!!!!
Keep your hand on her or rubbing her face or belly or even tapping her. Let her know you're still there and keep picking up and putting back down if she cries. Even shushing without touching her but so she knows you're in the room still
@Victoria I'd say start with naps first
@Rebecca girl i dooo, she just keeps crying until i pick her up :( if i don’t it just turns into a cry it out and i will not do that, all the picking up and putting down just frustrates her, she ends up getting overtired as one time i stuck to this it took us an hour to get her to sleep
how long would you say i should keep trying this if she cries every time i put her down? x
Following! We rock our 7 month old to sleep, she’s 9kg now and both our bodies are broken
Same. Exact. Boat. Nothing works with this child. Just screams until we pick her up 😩
IM SO SORRY YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS TOO but it feels good knowing it’s not just us 🫠🩷 i jeep telling myself it’s just a phase and she just needs her mum but this phase has been going on for a whileeeeee and her mum can be there in other, less difficult ways too u know 🤪🤪
im also so scared for when she starts sitting on her own, is she just going to sit in her cot and refuse to sleep????
Mines 9 months tomorrow and I still rock to sleep 🫣. The sleepy but awake method is meant to be really good
giiiirl i don’t have much advice but you’re not alone. mines 11 weeks, so heavy but no way near as heavy as yours haha (i’m tiny and weak 🤣) but same. he just refuses to sleep anywhere that isn’t on me. the minute i put him in his bed he just cries until i pick him up again. i had to resort to chest sleeping a bit during the night just so i can get some sleep. the rest of the time i’m just constantly waiting till he falls asleep in my arms > put in bed > he wakes up aaand we go again🥲
@Hannah awww 11 weeks 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺sounds like a lifetime ago, we were the same at 11 weeks ahahah, im weak too, i love rocking her to sleep but it’s getting unsustainable now🤣physically impossible
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@Helen drowsy but awake? i think it’s a scam, no matter how DROWSY my girl is, the second she’s put in bed she’s basically wide awake lol but i know it works for some x
Mines 13 months I still rock to sleep 🙈
@Victoria I've personally not tried it because if I put mine down awake she just rolls over, and crawls to the bars crying instantly. I tend to feed to sleep or rock to sleep
Still rocking out 15mo, our arms got stronger 🤣
@Amey and you’re pregnant!!! i dont know how you do it!!! 🩷
@Jade my knees HURT🤣🤣🤣🥲
@Victoria my son only ever sat up once he was awake and ready to get up. He just went to sleep when it was nap time/bedtime
@Victoria mines the same - no matter how drowsy, she wakes up unless she's completely fast asleep as soon as I transfer. I do get her to sleep sitting in a chair though with her lying across my lap, rather than rocking, so at least it doesn't hurt my back/knees/arms, but is just time consuming making sure she's completely asleep. I did the same with my first, and said I'd do it differently next time, but here we are again!!! Maybe you could try a cuddle sitting down, so same sort of position to start with but sitting down?
@Victoria yeah 16 weeks this week I have no clue I guess I know it works and it’s the fear of stopping n if I do what if he ends up waking up and not sleeping properly I need to stop really but no clue how 😂🙈
This happened with me. I started by putting him in his cot & stroking his back. I’d try that method for about 10 - 15 mins & if he was still screaming I’d stop and either rock him to sleep or give him a bottle. Eventually he did start going to sleep with me just stroking his back, then I started just having my hand on his back, then just sitting next to him then eventually just putting him down awake and leaving the room. I think you just have to keep trying, I’m not sure there’s a magic fix that doesn’t involve some crying unfortunately 😔(atleast not in my experience)