Unexpected NICU Mom 😔

I went through this same exact thing. Except my labor sucked and he got stuck without oxygen for a bit. They will keep an eye on her and she will be back in your arms before you know it. Try picking out some outfits for her. What will be her first story when she is home, her first pjs and socks. Keep yourself busy, if there is any cleaning you have left to do before she is home. Good luck!

Congratulations for your baby. I can relate how u feel, however I am not a single parent. I had my baby boy 7 weeks ago, after 2 days I was packed to go home when doctor said we cannot go home because he was breathing fast.We been at special care for 5 days. However even was hatd especially forst days because your emotions are so vulnerable. I always has to think that this is the best for my baby and will do anything to support him, i was crying too.So much emotions. Try to organise the things for her to go home whenever doctor says she is fine😊I also thought even is very hard but what if something would have happened to him and we are home. Try make yourself busy have a shower wash hair do some make up have food ( very important).Cry if yoj feel for it but then wipe it off because you are the luckiest mum 😊🤗

Stay positive ❤️ she’s beautiful 💜 I’ll pray for you 🙏 🙏🙏 pray , give it to God. She’ll be with you soon.

Try to remember that you did an amazing thing. You were a vessel for this beautiful human who is HERE! She may not be going to her forever home as soon as you thought, but she is HERE and you have forever to spend with her once she is ready to see her home with you. The idea to keep yourself busy sounds like a good one too! Pick out cute outfits, keep nesting!! I’m sending all love and mommy strength to you 💛💛 this too shall pass

Cry mama, cry, I did that same when my baby was at the NICU and nothing anyone said comfort me. Your precious will be fine, I left the hospital without her and it was a horrible feeling. I was at the hospital day and night for 7 more days after she was born. Now my daughter is running everywhere calling me mama. Hugs ♥️ message me if you need to talk to someone.

Stay strong. She’s absolutely beautiful x

Ugh I’m so sorry mama. My baby was a NICU babe at 9 pounds 10 ounces. Born at 37 weeks. Everything was fine except he couldn’t get his sugar regulated. We spent 8 days there. Good luck!!!’

My son went through almost the exact same thing. She will be OK!! They are really good at dealing with this kind of issue. We were worried and upset of course and you can let all those feelings come, but the silver lining in my eyes was that I got to have some extra recovery time while nurses took care of my newborn. You will still have plenty of time for bonding! Good luck!

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Also, the hospital where I gave birth had a certain number of hotel-type rooms that were available to NICU parents on a first come first serve basis. Does your hospital have anything like that? It was helpful for us to be nice and close to visit baby whenever we were awake!

I'm here .

I'm a proud NICU mommy of 2 beautiful kids I love Dem to death

I jus try to be strong and stay positive

It's absolutely horrible isn't it. I would say use this time to go home, shower, change and you can go to visit whenever you can. Your baby is in the best place possible. When you visit do as much skin on skin as you can to work on your bond and if you plan on BF start pumping if you aren't already. Try and use this as time to recover quicker so you can be the best mama you can when baby is out xxxx It's not the start anyone wants but much better they catch it now and baby gets the help they need rather than struggling when your home.

Hope all is ok. Go home and rest your baby will be in your arms soon ❤

This exact thing happened to me in April! They said it was caused by a swift labour so the fluid didn’t get squeezed out of his lungs as effectively if labour was slower. 5 days of antibiotics and oxygen before discharge but now he’s fine 😇 It was tough being separated from him but we were all reunited on discharge from hospital....... now he’s healthy, happy and developing fine. Have faith, baby will be ok. 👍

My baby was taken straight to nicu after birth. She had a heart defect and one underdeveloped lung. Luckily we were classed as out of area to the hospital she was born so we got given a room to stay in. I had 2 knitted squares, one I wore in my top and one in the incubator. I would swap them so she could always smell me.

My son spect 6 weeks in the nicu. The nurses who work in the NICU are amazing people. Have faith that your baby is in the best hands. You can call at any time to get updates on your baby. Pump, shower, finish up amy last min things you didn't get too. Make sure you eat and nourish your body. Whether you breastfeed or not, you will need your strength.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had the same experience last week. My baby was born at 35 weeks and was taken straight to the NICU. I spent a week at home without him crying everyday he wasn’t here. The only advise I can give is to visit as much as possible and fill your days with cuddles, get to know the NICU nurses as this makes you feel so much better knowing the amazing care your baby is under. And just know she is in the best place for her. There’s nothing that anyone can do or say to make this time less heartbreaking, but just know when you get to bring her home it is the best feeling in the world and you won’t take anything forgranted. Until then stay strong, it’s such a hard time but she will be with you before you know it x

My little one will be 1 month tomorrow and he’s been there since his birth at 32 weeks. I won’t tell it will be easy but I promise you they are in the best hands. My little guy is doing so much better but I still find times where I’m crying leaving the hospital because I just want my baby home. My advice to you is think positive and talk to the doctors and nurses if you are feeling unsure. They will try to put your mind at ease. Our NICU allows us to call anytime of the day and is your allow to than call if you can be there. I’ve woke up at 3am once and called to check on him (we aren’t allowed in the NICU from 10pm to 8am). Another thing that works for my little one is I slept with one of this blankets and brought it to him. I like to think it made him more comfortable having my smell since I wasn’t able to hold him for 3 days. I promise you things will get better and this will make you a stronger momma. Congratulations on your beautiful your beautiful baby ♥️

My heart goes out to you! I’m glad she’s recovering!! I’m a recent NICU mom myself and we also had to go home without our little babes. It’s hard, but know that you are doing an AMAZING job!! Trust in the fact that she is getting THE best care that she needs. That being said, my suggestion which I think helped us so much is go home and take a nap!! Grab some food, nap for as long as you need and then when you’re ready, go visit your little girl and stay for as long as you’d like!! They told us we could come visit whenever we wanted so that helped!! We were in the nicu from 10p-2a and then went back to sleep and came back early in the AM!! I know it’s not easy, but you are strong and your little girl will benefit so much from you feeling your best!

Find peace knowing that your baby is in good hands and when you see your baby again, she will be all better. Prayers going up for you. I'm in the pediatric hospital with my infant. We've been here since Wednesday because she will not gain weight. It's been stressful, but I claim your babygirl gets put back in your arms very soon and in great health.

I feel your pain, mama. My little girl was born at “28 weeks” and was in the NICU for 7 weeks. It was the most defeating feeling going home without my baby. I had a picture perfect pregnancy up until then and used to beat myself up about what I did wrong. Just know that your baby is in very capable hands and she’ll be home before you know it. What I did to help me pass the time was to journal my experience and to find someone who went through a similar experience that I could talk to. Baby girl has now been home for over a month now and one day I’ll be able to share her story with her. You’ve got this mama ❤️

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I can’t imagine. However I would say breathing, reminding yourself that they are ok and being positive that they will be ok! If you believe in prayer you could pray and ask others to pray for you as well. If you believe in the Bible you can pick a key scripture that you can repeat over and over when you feel overwhelmed or anxious or afraid. ❤️

I hope you and your baby are reunited by now 💓 Just some words of encouragement: the same thing happened with my baby girl, born at 39 weeks, no issues and she was whisked to the NICU minutes after birth because of fluid in her lungs. Of course I was devastated but reminded myself my baby was being carefully looked after and taken care of. The fluid was gone within 9 hours but they kept her there 48 hours to monitor her. I visited her as much as I could and seeing what a tough little fighter she was just motivated me to be strong too. She’s almost 4 months now and thriving 💕💕

Ohhh mommy I’m so sorry my baby went to the nicu 2 weeks after we took him home, he was under weight and I didn’t know he wasn’t latching properly. One thing that was a huge take away is that the nurses there are so loving and sweet and only want you and the baby to be together again happy and well! One nurse said something great that I will never forget, you have free babysitters that are working 24 hours around the clock feeding and caring for your baby. You can call visit and go see her! But also take the time to take a rest and have a few moments to yourself because when you have her in your arms and at home it will be just as amazing but will surely be nothing short of sleep. 😊 Hope this helps mommy and know your baby will be home in no time!

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I’m sorry this happened! The delivery of my daughter was similar. A pretty perfect labor and delivery. But she was born with a little sacral dimple on her bum. They took her a handful of hours after birth and did an ultrasound. But upon bringing her back said she had a low temp and could be risk of infection. It sucked. That started a week long stay in the NICU. Honestly looking back now and talking with pediatricians since (my daughter is now 21 months old) ... the hospital blew things way outta proportion and she may have never have been in there that long. Clearly she is fine now. Lol But to make myself less sad about the lost time and bonding... or less frustrated from hospital bill that took me to pay off.... the plus side is I walked outta there very confident I was leaving with a newborn that was going to be just fine when I finally brought her home.

My Little guy was born at 33 was and one day. It was one the hardest things I ever had to do. Listen to the dr’s tell me my baby was leaving with me, but I could stay in the NICU with him as long as I wanted to and once discharged I could come as long and as often as I wanted. I cried going to sleep and waking up. But one thing that helped just a little was when I got home, I started preparing for him his arrival. Got his clothes together, his room and everything I would need to bring him home. While at the hospital with him, I journaled as much as I could. Learned as much as I could about things needed once he came home. “ the Do’s and Don’ts” I took tons of pictures to see later of his development and to make a picture journal for him so that once he’s older he can see how far has come. It will get better. Send hugs and strength to you and your beautiful baby💗💗💗

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My son was born at 29 weeks and was in the NICU for 64 days. Hardest thing. Join the NICU moms group on fb. Really good support. You’ll get through this Mama!

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Just now seeing this so someone probably has already mentioned this but pumping every 2-3 hours is what helped me out.

I can't seen to get my bottle filled up to the top in a day

Help i want mi baby girl home

Any NICU mommy's can help

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They let me stay after I was discarged. My little man was born with fluid outside his lungs and a collapsed lung. I held him for seconds after delivery before they rushed him out of the room. Hang in there.

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You got this mama! My little one was in the nicu for 99 days. Visit often if you are able too! If you need any assistance, please reach out as I working with a non profit that supports nicu families. She. You are there talk with the nurses they will help ease your fears. Our nurses became family !!

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Hi, your story is so familiar. I was there 11 years ago with my son. Perfect pregnancy and perfect delivery, but then they told me he had a fever and low muscle tone and he needed to go to NICU in a different city. I didn’t see him again until the next day. If you need to cry, let it out. Do something to take care of yourself, something just for you. Watch a movie, get a favorite desert—taking care of yourself will always be a priority and will help you be the best mom, so don’t ever feel guilty about treating yourself. And you won’t be crying forever. Let yourself get it out, and eventually this period will fade into memory. :)

Omg I’m so sorry! It truly is devastating and frustrating. You will feel all kinds of emotions between now and when you get to take her home - everyone will understand this, especially the NICU nurses. Similar thing happened to me about a week ago as well. I just reassured myself that baby is in the NICU getting extra attention and care that I wouldn’t be able to provide while recovering myself. And think of it as a slow transition into parenthood. When you go to the NICU ask tons of questions about her plan of care, how to change diapers, feed, etc. Go as often as you can and hold baby while you’re there even if they’re sleeping. Take tons of pics! You will get through this.

My son was born at 34 weeks, and spent 27 days in the NICU. I cried every day. It's okay to cry. Call them whenever you can't go in yourself and get updates. I would literally call at 2 AM when I was up pumping to check on him. They welcome it, and they're there to support you. Also once you're discharged, you can technically just live in his room if you want. They should have restrooms with showers there if you're more comfortable with that.

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