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Birth Reflections/debrief

Would there be much point in one now? I still have intrusive thoughts and I get flashbacks and stuff at night and I'm terrified of having another baby because I'm 99% sure I'll die. But I know what happened, why it happened, how it was fixed etc so I don't feel like a debrief would really do much to help

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How often do you have sexy time?

After having a kid, my kitty feels tighter and different. I’m learning to embrace my “mom body.” Anyone else’s sex life change? Has it gotten better, or are you able to focus on other important things in life? I feel like intimacy at this point is important. Doesn’t have to be just sex.

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Opinions

Heyyy.. so just after some opinions really, I’m due baby in 2 days and am very anxious about other people holding my baby, I dont know if it’s just my emotions ect getting the better of me but the thought of other people holding my baby gets me really anxious and like I want to be able to say to people to wash and s...

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Feeling like a failure

Nearly 2 months pp and really struggling with feeling like I’ve failed my son in multiple ways. First I couldn’t birth him naturally (resulting in assistance via forceps and then ending in a c section). Then I couldn’t breastfeed him. And I think he’s suffering from colic or residual trauma/tension from the birth as...

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Depressed bc of an accident

A week ago I accidently cut my baby’s thumb really bad with nail clippers ever since iv been really depressed not even just about her thumb just about everything I feel like this has really messed with my head

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Would you leave your friend to sulk?

For context: I’m 27 have a 2 year old, She’s 22 no kids we met in work, been great friends for 4years.) The last two months, she’s been awful with plans (she can be hit miss occasionally) but has cancelled on them all, including going to see wicked in cinema cause she didn’t know how to tell me she’d booked a last ...

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Vent

I’m just tired, overstimulated, depressed. I been going through so much and it’s like no matter what I do it hasn’t gotten better and I just want to let all this shit out cause Ik it’s not good for me.

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umbilical hernia?

Has anyone else’s babies got an umbilical hernia? We’ve been told it’s fairly common in babies and will go on its own but of course it looks a bit worrying! Has anyone else had experience of this and how long on average did it take to go down? Our babies is rather large! Thank you

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Question/thoughts

Hi lovely ladies. I am due in March and things are starting to feel real for me. I’m so excited to become a mother and feel ready. I wanted to know thoughts and maybe experiences on after birth with parents/inlaws. My hubby and I are having my mom move in (was hubbys idea as he travels a bit for work) My in la...

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Serious mum guilt

How are people coping who have a newborn and a toddler? My first born is 2 next week and my baby has just turned 12 weeks. I get such bad mum guilt, I wish I could give them both the same amount of attention all day, but it’s just not possible. Baby often gets put down to give my toddler attention, I feel like some ...

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Going back to work

How is everyone dealing with going back to work? I've just been referred to occupational health to get some counselling and just started on sertraline. Both to help with anxiety surrounding my little girl but I feel like I just want to cry every day. I don't want to leave her 😭 Anyone else feeling the same?

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1 week PP

One week postpartum and my man decided it was too much for him and moved out and blocked me on everything. We were having some issues, but nothing I thought would equal him leaving me and our kids. Especially not freshly after having his daughter.

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Hair loss

Ok so this whole pot partum hair loss is really starting to get to me. Waking up and hair on pillow. Never mind dreading a shower for the hair loss. It's been well over a month of this crap.. anyone else on the same boat?? Doubt there is anything we can do for it. I dont remember my hair loss being this bad with my ...

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Husband mentioned……

That he “still likes the name ****”. This was a name we were deciding between when we named our daughter. We ended up not going with it and picking another. and this is prolly the second time in the last couple months he’s mentioned it. So I looked at him and was like what does that mean?? And he just said I dunno ...

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circumcision pros and cons

so i’m having a baby boy, and i’m not sure on circumcision. my boyfriend says he wants him to have it done but i just don’t see why it’s necessary to hurt him like that, nor do i see the point in it. i’ve done some research but all in all i still cannot come to a conclusion, i hear lots of people saying to let him m...

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Shout out to my fellow big baby mamas!

22 weeks and 22lbs 😅 anyone else’s back hurting ? Also constantly hungry (breastfeeding) and can’t wait to wean!

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Fear of death, since becoming a mom

So I’ve always had a mild fear of death before. But since giving birth 11 days ago, it has really dawned on me that life is short. She has to grow up. I will get old and become a grandma. I will have to die one day and now I’m terrified. :/ What is this?

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Vulnerable Question:

Mamas of more than one baby: Do any of you regret having a second (or third, etc)? Or if you really wanted a girl but got a boy (or vice versa) has that affected the way you feel about the baby? My husband really wants a second and I’m really worried I will regret losing the one on one time with my little girl. I’m ...

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Mom guilt

I haven't gotten anything for my kids for Christmas yet, I feel so guilty. I don't wanna bring my 2 year old with me because she's starting to understand more than she did last year. It's been hard to find a baby sitter because my grandma has been in and out of the hospital with my mom since Feb

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Should I go?

I am a single mom with bipolar disorder and unmediated (not by choice). Everything is catching up to me and I don’t feel safe. I would NEVER hurt my child but I want to hurt myself. I want to cause bodily harm to myself. I want to check myself into a mental hospital but, I have never been away from my little one for...

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