Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Job interview tomorrow!

How do I cope with job interview anxiety??? I'm terrified.I looked at possible questions and I have answers properly but it's like a big mumble jumble in my head!!!

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Adoption?

I want to give my 4 year old up for an adoption as I can’t handle this anymore. I’m a single mother with no support, my family members here in the uk don’t really care about me. I know I’ve come too far to give up but I’m losing my mind. My daughter is a happy soul and I’m scared my broken self will ruin her confide...

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Do you think we(women) control how many kids we have?

My cousin is 34 with 7 kids and 1 on the way. She lives off the government, has 5 baby daddies and none of the kids are properly taken care of. Do you think there should be a limit on how many children women should have in order to prevent/reduce the chances of poverty, homelessness, etc. It’s sad and frustrating to...

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Fostering/adoption

Is it selfish I’m considering this? I thought I was ready for having a baby but emotionally and financially I am not ready and fear I will ruin my baby’s life .my partner and I argue relentlessly and I just want my old life back I just want to start over . Is it selfish I’m considering giving him for adoption or fo...

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Parenting …

I feel so guilty for saying or thinking this but I feel like I’m a better parent after my second child.

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Tips for me

I'm looking for how to deal with the guardians of my children because I have trouble living up to my word and I'm like the boy who cried wolf

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Baby no. 3 - too crazy?

My partner and I have extremely busy/high level jobs (and no family around where we live). We have a 5/6 bedroom house and have 1 decent car, but we are selling our old house now to buy a SUV and a holiday home for our family. Financially we are doing OK. We have 1 son (newborn) and 1 daughter (2.5 y/o). I am 35yo a...

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Advice for coparent options?

Is anyone raising a child without having to be in contact to the father of their child? Please any information would be helpful. I don’t have much money but i can definitely start saving to try to acquire someone.

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How long did you know your child's other parent/SO before conceiving/TTC?

I conceived my child 3 months after knowing their father

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boundaries and rules for new born

so i’ve told both sides of my family and my bd family that we don’t want any visitors for at least 2 weeks after i give birth and we told everyone this months ago, and my bd mum keeps trying to ask to see my newborn. It’s so frustrating as i really don’t feel comfortable with anyone holding or meeting my baby, what ...

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Kendamill

Please help!! Anyone else really struggling to get kendamill? We are down to our last tin and are really struggling to find it anywhere :(

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Paternity questions

I have a friend who came from another county pregnant. The baby father is not here in the US. How should she go about the baby's birth certificate? Will they give her trouble? He is in Africa.

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One and Done

Is anyone absolutely terrified of having a second child? I have one baby and she is almost 15 months old and her daddy and I want her to be an only child like me and the thought of another child taking her attention away terrifies me. How did you get over your fear or is there anything that helped you feel better?

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Life with 2 under 2’s

Hey Mum , I’ve been wondering how do you guys do it? How is life being a mum to 2 on the twos? I’ll have a 15 month gap between my children and I’m just wondering. HOW?! Especially in the newborn phase, how do you not neglect the first child? But also give the attention the second child needs 😭 it’s feeling…

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❣️🤷🏼‍♀️

You owe your kids. Idc what anyone says, you do. You owe them a solid foundation. You owe them unconditional love. You owe them your time. You owe them experiences. You owe them your loyalty. You owe them a lot. They didn’t ask to be here. Stop giving your kids the bare minimum.

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Colostrum Collecting

37 weeks today and just tried collecting colostrum for the first time, managed to get 2 full syringes so pretty proud with that! 😅 Feel like I could’ve got more but started feeling a bit sicky so stopped at 2, has anyone else had this?

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Changing child’s surname

For those who have changed their child’s surname, how long was the process from start to finish please?

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Frozen Embryo Transfer Day

Hi, what has everyone had to eat on the morning of their transfer? So mine is scheduled for 10 am. Last time I just drank water to have a semi full bladder. Didn’t eat anything. First FET failed, didn’t implant. Just wondering 💭

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Colostrum

Anyone else not able to get some colostrum 38 weeks 😭

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