Im sorry to say this but there's a high probability that he's sleeping with his ex. If shes being this bold towards you(sending photos and assaulting you) then he's giving her a reason to act that way. Also it's a huge red flag he doesn't want to move back in yet. I would tread very slowly with his and this relationship.
He wants to keep his options open, ma'am.
It sounds sketchy w him and his ex!!!
This would be a red flag to me, have you asked him about the relationship with her, and why they went on holidays. It looks like he's trying to have two options, maybe he doesn't fully know who he wants or his waiting to see if one fails
Sounds like counseling and attempting to get back together is a very bad idea. Ain't no way he's serious about you, doing all of this with his ex and telling you he is not ready without a timeline. This guy is playing with BOTH of y'all.
It can’t be a “paranoid situation” you got all the prove you need, i wouldn’t trust him, really sorry to say this but doesn’t seem like he wants to be with you, like someone on the comment above said he wants to keep his options open. Focus on you and the baby mama you got this! 🥰
I’m sorry, I think it’s unlikely he has any intention of putting you and your family first. He’s likely having AT LEAST an emotional affair with his ex, if not also a physical one. Which means he’s okay being disrespectful and unfaithful to two mothers of his children.
I wouldn’t trust him personally. All of that sounds extremely suspect. I’m so sorry but I personally wouldn’t let him back in. Set up something where he can come see baby and that’s it. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too if he was serious about getting back together he would have cut all contact with her. He shouldn’t have even started contacting her or goin on vacation with her etc