How are mums doing with toddlers and newborn?

I’ve noticed my toddler being louder and a little more distant since coming home with baby 2 days ago and this is breaking my heart! He’s 2 years old and I can’t stop crying thinking how he must be feeling. I want to carry him and hug him right but after a c-section I feel so guilty and he knows!
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Struggling with this too it’s hard :(

Struggling with this :( my little one is 13 months, we’ve been home 2 weeks with newborn, and it’s obvious my first born is getting more clingy etc

I'm really struggling 😞 I've got a 2 year old too and my partner went back to work this week so now I'm trying to juggle keeping my two year old happy while caring for my 2 week old 😭 it's so tough

I am there with you. My son is 27 months and we have a 2 week old. He wasn’t really phased by him when first introduced but the novelty has worn off over the last few days and there has been a huge change in my toddler’s behaviour - he’s started hitting myself and my husband (which he’s never done), crying when the baby cries (inconsolably), saying “no” to everything etc. All of that was to be expected at some point but him not wanting to come to me atm (he was previously the biggest mama’s boy) is breaking my heart. Also when he asks me to put the baby down to cuddle him :( so hard as I’m EBF too. There have been more tears from me than the two boys together I am sure of it. We are trying to stay consistent with his normal routine to limit the change as much as possible. We have to just keep reminding ourselves that our new babies will never have as much of our time as our older children did (then feel guilty for the baby too, if you’re anything like me), and that we have given…

…them a best friend for life. Everyone says it WILL get easier so I am trying to trust that and take one day at a time. Our older children won’t even remember a time without their new siblings xx

Hey, im in the same boat, I've got a 2.5 year old and had an emergency c section a week ago. I'm finding recovery painful and slow, my mums been here and a great help but my toddler just wants her mum and its really difficult, she has been having more tantrums and being clingy. I just keep telling myself that I will be in less pain and things will become a.new normal, toddler will get used to it. Fast forward a month xx

I’m in the same boat with a 24 month old and a 2 week old. Last week my toddler broke his leg and is now in a cast for 4 weeks and unable to walk at all 😢 so so hard to manage I’ve had my newborn in her sling a lot which has been a godsend but not sure how I’m going to manage this for another 3 weeks as he’s not allowed to go to nursery either 😢

This is a thread I needed to see. I have cried so many times today. I am exhausted. My 22 month old is really limits testing and not listening and many many tantrums. Baby has colic and is really unsettled so it's really too much... also tandem feeding them so I am SO touched out x

Thank you all for sharing your stories, it is just such a challenge and emotionally takes a toll on you. I suppose it is all very early days and things will improve as time goes on. Well done to all you Mommas for juggling it all, you’re all incredible xx

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