Need Advice from SAHMs

I need some advice from my SAHM, so I was thinking of quitting my part time job so I can stay home and take care of my baby girl and relax from work. This job has this new policy where they can fire you for how many time you’re late for work or how many time you called out. So to me it doesn’t matter if your kid is sick and you need to stay home to take care of them or you’re sick or you have appointments to get to and any other stuff you need to do as a mom. I’m busy at home all day and even at nights. I rather have my fiance to work because he made more money than. I want to quit rather than getting fire. What’s stopping me is that I want to make money for me and my baby and also I like my job. But this new rule at work just stressing me out a lot. It was fine before but now I have to rush a lot of time to feed baby and take her bath and get her ready before I get myself to ready for work. I always get to work late. Also the guilt I have for my fiance. I don’t want to put a burden on him, but he said he’s okay with it. He rather had me stay at home with baby than seeing me stressed out about work. So what should I do? Quit my job and stay at home ? Or keep working ?

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I can’t speak to whether you should quit your job or not. That’s a really tough call. But I will say this new policy sounds illegal. Im not a lawyer, but I don’t think they can fire you for taking entitled unpaid leave. I would seek out legal advice if that’s what’s being threatened.

I am in a similar boat as you, Kathrine. My job even added extra days and hours to my schedule where i never asked nor wanted it. I am supposed to be working part-time so that i can priorize my babies and my family properly. It's gotten to a point now where i feel constantly stressed and depressed because of it. I'm also trying to let go a little, and "if I'm late or have to call out, then so be it." It's to a point where i think if they let me go because of it, then so be it. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to dump. I can't answer your question but if you and your family can manage without your income, then i vote to be a sahm so you could focus fully on your baby/babies and family

I would wait until you are married and your finances are legally combined until you quit your job- get a timeline together and make a plan versus rushing into a decision. That’s great that your fiancé is on board but you need to also speak with him about details of money allocation once you are down to one income- will he be able to cover costs of all his and your bills with one income? how much will you budget for food, baby needs etc? how much money is left over at the end of each month? is that money put in to a joint savings account? will you receive money for yourself each month that you can spend how you like? I think you have to have a big conversation about finances first, before making the decision that is best for you and your family. ❤️

Before you make any decisions, I’ll encourage you guys to have a conversation of how you see the dinámica of you staying at home and he going and work. Once you have that conversation, and you agree on the responsibilities, give the next step, as you explained it sounds like he wants to provide and take care of you and baby, Also I hope you guys get married soon, so the path is more clear for both of you, remember one thing if you stay at home Does not mean you are not working, you actually do, Make a budget, and work with it. hope this helps. God bless you ♥️

Thank you ladies for the advice. I might need to talk with my fiance one more time, before making decisions. Thanks mamas 😊❤️

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