Sex after birth

I’m 5 months pp after a traumatic birth (episiotomy +. Forceps) It took me a good 4 months to “recover”. Before this, I would bleed during sex and every time I went for a poo! I’ve now stopped bleeding but sex just doesn’t feel the same anymore. I struggle to get wet even with foreplay. I feel like I have a loss of sensation during penetration maybe due to internal stitches? Idk. just have a very low sex drive now whereas before birth it was high. I just don’t enjoy it whereas before I couldn’t live without! Is this normal? Does it get better? Anyone else relate ?

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I would say this isn't normal but then again everyone's recovery is completely different. I had a traumatic birth with my first and had an episiotomy and forceps had sex 4 weeks pp no sensation loss and my drive was coming back after it disappeared during pregnancy. If you have concerns I would talk to your GP about it as they can tell you if this is normal or not

I’m in the same boat with my sex drive… basically non existent. I really have to make the effort to have sex now. I have found that my drive is slowly coming back though. I think we need to cut ourselves slack… all birth is traumatic and hard! Our bodies have gone through so much. Give yourself time ❤️

@Sophie thank you yes I will book a GP Appt 😫

@Steph finally someone who feels the same! How long did it take for it to slowly get back to how it was before birth? You’re right I do need to stop being so hard on myself but it’s hard. Life is so different postpartum! X

It came back around 4 months mark but then dropped off again when I had my first period. To be honest I haven’t felt the same since. But I don’t think that’s a physical thing I think it’s more my husband and I navigating the new relationship dynamics etc!

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