Holiday Plans

we’ve talked about having him visit with all the family on our behalf, show pictures, give updates, and grab some food to bring home for me. i’m a first time mom and i’m ok with being the stereotype i guarantee some of my younger cousins are going to be sick they always are when it gets cold out so i’d rather make sure the baby doesn’t get exposed to that

Due on the 18th and my MIL asked the usual Christmas Day host to host Christmas at hers to accommodate us 🫠 we didn’t want that. lol she did it on her own. Too many people, too much pressure, my doctor also said that’s really soon to have the baby around so many people. When we addressed it at first she didn’t understand and said wait to see how I feel at the time and decide if to come or not once baby is here . We had to say a firm and explain that the point is to make the decision now that we don’t want to be at a party with 25 people. We also don’t want to be alone on Christmas. So we will do immediate family only with my in laws and my parents!

I’m due the 12th but most likely I will have the baby by thanksgiving considering all my medical factors and history so I still plan on hosting Christmas at my home. It’s easier to accommodate myself and my babies when I’m where I have everything I need. I will not be cooking tho since I’m due for a C-section. The only thing I’ve ever asked family to do is don’t come sick.

@Rilynn love this idea! Thanks for sharing! I would hate to keep my husband separated from his family in Christmas but not sure if I’d be up for visiting with everyone.

@Kimberly love when people make plans because they think it’s what you want. Lol 😆 I like the idea of a small, adults only gathering. Are you having them come to your house or are you traveling? We are thinking I will be induced around the 18th so babies could be similar in age!

@Justice I am so glad that other people will be cooking and providing the dinner while you host! That sounds like a good compromise!

@Sara right 🤣 we will go over on Christmas Eve and sleep over to spend Christmas Day there. We will have a bassinet there and a rocking chair . We will bring whatever else we need in a travel bag!

I have stress dreams about this every night 😭 Ideally we’ll go to both our parents houses for Christmas (both live within 45 minutes). My husbands family has 4 other grandchildren plus my toddler. Ideally I’d keep baby wrapped up on my and not do the “pass the baby” being he’ll only be 2 weeks old. But I struggle to vocalize that and my husband thinks I’m crazy. Our first got RSV last year when she was 4 months old and I want to mitigate the rest it happens to our newborn at all costs. My parents will respect my wishes but they also don’t have any other grandchildren and Christmas is literally my family and them.

We’re due 12/1, and are long distance from both families. My mom will fly out for the birth & stay for a few weeks, and my in laws will fly out for a week or so & fly back home for Christmas, so it’ll be just me, my husband, and our new baby for Christmas/new year before January visits, which is our preference, and our families are very supportive & understanding.

I haven’t gotten there yet but this is making me realize we need to have a plan and set boundaries…. Eek. In my mind we’ll be home and immediate family can visit if they are well. But not going to commit to anything. I’m stressing about Xmas shopping and already trying to buy gifts for the family so that I can wrap and prep early

Yes, we won’t be traveling for thanksgiving or Christmas but do plan to FaceTime with family and share baby pics. We just don’t want to risk exposing baby to so many people during flu/RSV season. My mom will bring over food for us so we won’t need to worry about cooking

My Inlwas live about 12 hrs away, so we don’t have to deal with that. They won’t be visiting after baby and then Christmas as well. I’ve already told my family we will not be going to the large family gathering on Christmas Eve. I don’t even know how many people were there last year and it’s not a baby or toddler friendly house. My son’s first Christmas was horrible. We stayed maybe an hr and he was screaming/crying just about the entire time. Everyone ate without us and we we rush ate in turns. We immediately left. I don’t want a repeat of that. Plus germs. My immediate family is invited to our house Christmas afternoon/evening. My mom will cook the main course and I’ll make some sides. But I’ll have everything needed for the kiddos and they’ll be in their own comfortable space.

I’m due December 15th. We already notified both families we won’t be attending as I’ll be at home to recover and won’t be taking the baby anywhere other than doctors appointments. Our first born was born in October and it was the same way too. My family is an hour away while my in laws are about 20 minutes from us. My husband is fine with everything. This will be our first holiday as a family of 4 (6 including our 2 animals - cat & dog).

I am due 2 weeks before Christmas and wont be hosting or doing anything big. We have a toddler so we will be in a huge transition with everything. We are only planning to have my Mom over since we usually spend it with her anyways. We dont want to expose baby or our toddler to anyone sick during cold season as that would be the last thing we need. We are pretty independent from both sides of the family so if they have an opinion it wouldn’t affect us. It will be a nice cozy holiday with our little family and 2 dogs.

I’m canceling Christmas unfortunately.