Spending time with dad
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Feel free to message me girl. Me and my babydad split ages ago and have lived separately the last 5 weeks. Best thing to do is if possible be civil with his dad and friendly when your son is around. My family and my baby dads family say they can’t tell we’re split because we are so calm and nice around our son because he deserves that. My son goes to his every Friday and comes home Saturday or Sunday. We also FaceTime most nights for 30 mins so dad can see what he’s doing and so my son can have a babble to him and his dad will pop in to see him every Wednesday and put him to bed. Best thing for them is routine. To be honest my son has only just settled with this routine, at first he was really difficult when he came back from dads, he wasn’t asking for dad but his behaviour was naughty is the only word I can use to describe it. However he’s got much better especially because when I drop off or dad does he sees us leave and we say we’ll be back. And we always are. It’s tough I know -
And it broke my heart when he first started going to his dads but honestly I’m glad for the break now. His dad has a better bond with him as they always do things together like park, soft play. Sometimes two separate but happy parents is better than parents who are together and not happy. Just try to establish a routine with your baby dad and stick to it. And also agreements, what you’re ok with, what he’s ok with, money, conflicts, boundaries etc! Me and mine agreed that any conflict or disagreements we have on text so my son doesn’t see or hear it. I promise it’ll be ok. Feel free to reach out x
My parents split when I was 9 years old, and then when I was 13 he remarried and moved 2 hours away. He picked me up and I spent every other weekend there until uni. I’m not going to lie, there were hard times and I hated missing out of sleepovers/parties with friends as a teen. But… and you might not like hearing this but it IS a positive. I have a lovely step mum who I adore and I also have a half brother on my Mums side who I love so much. These people wouldn’t be in my life if my parents were together so it worked out for the best ❤️
I spent almost every weekend going to my dads, they split when I was 2 so I have no memories of them together as a couple whatsoever. My dad moved multiple times but mostly had a base at his parents for years, so while I was spending time with my dad I was also spending a lot of time with my grandparents on that side which was lovely. It made weekends really special as we were always doing something or going somewhere and I never felt unsettled. I’ve turned out pretty good!