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How old is baby? It’s so so hard. Sounds like colic/purple crying. It’s really common developmentally. But if you feel yourself getting upset. Just take some time and put baby down. They will be okay for a few moments whilst you make a brew or have a breather. Emma’s diary have a really good resource. https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/baby/new-born-care/purple-crying
She’s just over 4 weeks old. I think she may have colic but I’ve never had her diagnosed so I don’t know for certain. I feel like I’m really struggling with my own health and also mentally so I’m going to get a doctors appointment but even then, nothing really will help. I’m so overtired and sleep deprived and obviously I can’t catch up on sleep, I know that it’s been over 4 weeks since I gave birth but I’m still exhausted from labour and giving birth as I hadn’t slept for over 40 hours before I gave birth and then obviously haven’t slept since because of baby. They say sleep when the baby sleeps but she doesn’t sleep so it’s just so hard 😢 I just really don’t know what to do and how to cope, and the fact that your baby’s 9 weeks old and still doing it is making me feel even worse because I know that it’s not going to get any better for another few months and that makes me feel so suicidal because I feel like my body’s giving up and can’t cope with the exhaustion 😢
Have you thought about changing her milk? What is she currently on? Maybe offer a dummy for comfort xx
It sounds like you need help so docs appointment is a good idea, but also do you have someone who could take the baby for a couple of hours so you can get some sleep? My partner and I did shifts so I could get at least some sleep, and grandparents and even friends offered to take him for a bit. You can't do it on your own so ask for help!
She’s breastfed and she’s not taking a dummy, I’ve tried so many times she just spits it out as it makes her gag
Maybe not getting enough breastmilk/or could have an allergy to something your eating best to go see a doctor x
Have you had her checked for tongue tie? I battled to get mine checked as they insisted it wasn't and turns out she had a really bad one. She spits and gags on the dummy too. I also pump/breast feed as sometimes she will take a bottle better. I found the little mam bottles good, but worth trying a few if you want to go down that route as there are so many different style teats and they all get on with different bottles. Worth pushing for. Also, go to a breast feeding group if you can to get the latch checked. Definitely push to get her checked out. I have gone dairy and soya free for now too and will do a reintroduction at some point to see if it's that. You do have to be quite pushy to get them seen though. Also try to get her seen before 6 weeks as I found out the hard way they drop you into health visitor/gp territory after that. Good luck and try to get someone to watch her for a bit, even if crying so you can get your head down as sleep deprivation/listening to her the whole time is a killer xx
Will she take a bottle? If so, you could try feeding her then going straight to sleep and having your partner/someone else give her a bottle for the next feed - that could get you 4-6 hours unbroken sleep which is a lifesaver at this stage. We are doing a bottle at night and one in the morning so I get two chunks of sleep like that.
Oh hun. I’m sorry. Have you tried MAM dummy’s they are really soft. I had a similar issue. My baby is 4 weeks. Wouldn’t settle at all at night and was so distressed I combi feed and she has the odd formula bottle l, so when I can’t deal with BF or she isn’t satisfied I will give her formula as well.
I feel this, I had a colicky baby and she cried a lot. She is probably cluster feeding at the minute/ going through a leap or growth spurt. Things that helped: baby wearing so she gets her fill of cuddles, chest sleeping, skin to skin, Bibs dummies (it was hit and miss to start but these are rubber), baby massage, music, baby osteopath (she had a traumatic delivery, much like you I had had no sleep since before she was born), colic calm (expensive but worked), we did bottles of expressed milk but sometimes she still wanted boob. You are going through so much change right now and its so so hard, healing and the hormones and the lack of sleep. Please feel free to message. You are not alone 💕
Could she have reflux? Maybe get her checked by a GP? Good luck🤞 it's so hard when they cry non stop! 🫂
Maybe take her the drs and get her checked as the milk she’s on could be making her unwell and obviously she can’t say what’s up so she’s just crying. Have u got any support around u where they can have ur little one so u can have a few hrs to ur self to try and just relax. Or cuddling her with relaxing sleep music on can sometimes chill babies out. Xxx hope u r ok and little one too.
You didn't say how old is she? My LO is 9 weeks and had a period when he would only settle on the boob or sleeping in my arms. So I spent day after day in bed or on the sofa holding him. He's a bit better now but the last three days we've gone backwards and apart from a walk in the morning I'm back to living in bed ... Another thing to check is trapped wind... would be worse if she's bottle fed.