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@Lauren This isn't even the tip of the iceberg with her either unfortunately 😥 I just had a hard time telling if I was being to harsh with my response to her apology, thank you for the reassurance <3
No most definitely not, and your husband needs to see that is not normal at all. ugh made me so angry reading that lol I could only imagine when you heard it from her mouth 😂
You can forgive but you don’t gotta be back buddy buddies lol 😂 that’s how I get on with life I forgive a lot of ppl because at the end of the day I have peace in my heart I have to envy towards anyone I’m blessed but I keep my distance from ppl who did me wrong
What ???? Wow... She sounds awful. You can eventually forgive but not forget. If you decide you agree her to be in your life she gonna have to prove she have changed for real.
That famous saying of forgive but don’t forget, honestly I hate it because how can you forgive that? But I would say a lifetime of the baby not seeing family is hard because believe me it does get complicated! Private message me if you want, unfortunately I have heard similar words surprisingly a bit worse.. I know 100% where you’re coming from so my inbox is open xx
You are so right. I would have done the same thing. Is awful what she did, horrible. She can keep the girlfriend of you BIL now, keep distance and keep her away from you and your child. She didn’t want your baby to be born in the first place so why now so interested to get to know him/her. I wouldn’t trust a person like that with my baby
No, a Life time is too short for someone like that. Keep her out and dont look back!!!
What?? I would never talk again with my own mother after those words, leave alone a lady who's literally no one to me.
The comment itself is unfathomable. Is being that unhinged a one off event or an established pattern of behavior for her? If it’s her behavior, your husband may be used to (and therefore a bit blind to) how dysfunctional she is. If he grew up in the cycle of mom acts crazy > she apologizes > she gets better > she gets crazy (again), then this feels normal to him. It’s not normal. Telling someone to GET RID OF THEIR BABY so another person can have more attention is insane. My take on forgiveness is this: I’m not carrying around hate and resentment in my heart for someone else’s actions because that ultimately hurts me in the end. So, I will forgive quickly, but that doesn’t mean I agree with what happened and it also doesn’t mean that we’re back in each other’s lives again. We can be cordial, we will not be close. By refusing to accept how deeply she hurt you, It sounds like she cant empathize with you, which leads me to question her motives behind reconciliation in the first place 🤔
I read "she wanted me to terminate my pregnancy so my brother in laws girlfriend can be the only pregnant one" that's all I needed to read to say you are absolutely not in the wrong. I would never speak to her again. That is unforgivable in my opinion. You guys were trying to have a baby, that is an aweful thing to say to anyone. If it makes you feel better I stopped talking to my MIL over something way more petty than that. You are absolutely in the right and are not being petty or selfish in any way. She needs to respect you and your husband as well as your choice to bring a baby into the world. Life has actually been much more relaxing without my MIL around.
Sorry she’s trash , those are some horrible words to say to anyone , I would not speak to her or make up to her . Why would you trust her around your child when she wanted your child dead . Hell no .
No no no! Saying anything that disgusting could never be a mistake! She clearly favours your bil & for your husband to so quickly forgive her for thinking you should get rid of your loved & very much wanted baby like it's a piece old packaging is crazy to me! I'd personally never speak to her again & if I had to see her I'd say hi & bye and nothing more. I'd especially never let her be alone with the baby or facilitate any sort of relationship between them. If your husband wants to, then that's on him but she has shown what lengths she will go to to prioritise other people's feelings and disregard you and your husband's wants and needs.
That’s se seriously messed up shit. Unfortunately this might cause a rift with your husband though. It sounds like he wants to reconcile. It might be that giving way a little might help your marriage. Set conditions for a ‘relationship’. For example, we will not live near her and she will never be left alone with your son. And if she crosses any parenting boundaries, you will not tolerate it and will leave.
I personally would be furious I’m a very forgiving person even though I too have had repeated offenders because I decided that forgiveness is a good thing but that doesn’t mean I forget. But if my mil or anyone literally anyone told me to terminate my pregnancy because someone else was pregnant and they wanted them to be the only one to celebrate bringing life into the world I would not forgive them and I mean never forgive them and that’s a first for me if that was the case. I think your feelings and your choice is valid and if you don’t want to forgive her or give her access to your child you don’t have too. What she has said and tried to do is unforgivable and that’s coming from someone who constantly forgives everyone no matter what they do that’s the one thing even I could never forgive it’s sick!
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Wow, I can not wrap my head around what she said!! She wanted you to terminate your baby…and now wants to be part of your life?!?! NOPE! If she had gotten her way your child would not be around….so she can now live her life without your child because she never wanted them anyway! Tell your husband he is welcome to have a relationship with his bitch of a mother but you and your son will not be doing so. If he tries pushing it remind him over and over again that she wanted you to KILL your baby!!!! No one who thinks this has the audacity to then complain they don’t get to see them!! X
No I'd of done the same
That's crazy I'd never forgive that Don't let them twist you into it either, stick to your ground, you are not over reacting at all What an awful thing to say My partners sisters judged me for being pregnant too saying it's not right time you can't afford it you shouldn't have had a child etc I wouldn't have a baby if I couldn't afford it etc I was like excuse me who are you to tell me how to run my own life get lost
Omg what? She sounds absolutely terrible. Who tells someone to terminate a very wanted pregnancy because someone else in the family is/wants to be pregnant? You are absolutely in the right, and I would not want someone like that around my child. That's absolutely terrifying, I'm so sorry you had to hear those awful things ❤️