MIL invited herself for dinner and told me to cook 😂 I PUT MY FOOT DOWN THIS TIME

Hahaha I love it

Good for you!

“Hi MIL thank you for offering us to host a dinner party in mine and your son’s home. How very thoughtful. However just like you couldn’t be bothered to discuss this with us first, I cannot be bothered to cook. You are welcome to go shopping grab groceries and cook them in ours yourself, pay for a take out for everyone , or have your dinner elsewhere. But I reinforce that I shan’t be cooking. What you do with this information is up to you.”

Please update us on what she does

I will!! I officially decided to become a bitch and it feels great 😂 Husband heard everything whenever we were on the phone so she can’t even play the “I didn’t know” card. Unfortunately it will affect his uncle and wife because they are most likely not expecting to have to contribute anything towards dinner and they live in a very tight budget. Not my fault though.

My exact thoughts: pizza party on you mumzy wumzy!

@Nina Yup!! If she had offered to watch my son or to help me cook/clean the house the outcome would be so different. I LOVE cooking for people and I always offered them a nice dinner. But please do not treat me like a maid in my own house!!

Wow that’s so wild of her😂 update us after the pizza party

Can’t wait for the juicy update come Sunday 😁😁

MILs out here be wilding 🤣🤣🤣 wtf?

personally i think you were way too nice to her. i would’ve straight up told her no and to lower her expectations and entitlement and told her that if she wants to see them all to have dinner with them so badly she can do it in her house and she can cook for them all

Commenting so I can know see the update lol

@Ellen I was definitely way too nice!! My flabbers were so gasthed that I couldn’t think straight 😂 We never have dinner in her house though because it’s disgusting and even her brother avoids going there. I always made my house welcome to host family events and even birthday parties, but this is something that people discuss with me and not just “let me know”. I definitely should have said for us to go to a restaurant or something.

I love it

Can’t wait for the update!

I would say if everyone could bring something home made to contribute to the family meal to make it more special then basically add all that a quick side dish from me and just serve that that will show them especially the MIL🤦🏾‍♀️🤣🥲💯

You did amazing. She can't manage your time and life. So rude to take the disposition of your time and house, and she wants you to even cook for them. No way

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Especially in the middle of a Reno/ home project people shouldn’t have demands/ expectations. Please update after Sunday ❤️

So cheeky! 😂 please keep us posted ❤️

Following 😆

@Kelsey the audacity girl!!

Following!!

Following as well. Love when someone sets boundaries! You go girl! 💪🏼💪🏼

These MIL feel so entitled these days.

I love the thread 😂❤️ Everyone will be coming around 5pm and I will let yall know how it goes 🙆🏽‍♀️

Not sure what time it is where you are but it’s 7pm here in the UK! ♥️

@Zay🌸 wow!! Im in Texas, its 1:21 over here 😬

@Zay🌸 I was going to say the same, look at us being eager to hear the rest 😂

oh I’m staying up tonight 😁

@Aurélie Right! Never thought I was a gossiper but I’ve seemed to make an exception🤣

@Zay🌸 it's just so refreshing to hear about someone putting (or about to put) their MIL back into their place. I hear so many horror stories on here which are wiiiillllld. So I feel invested in this one because I want to see MIL getting what she deserves. The entitlement is insane. I'm so lucky my MIL is lovely. 😂

The way Im laughing 😂 Im currently “closing” my kitchen so as soon as they put a foot inside they will be able to tell that nothing was/will be cooked. My period just started, my dog walked over our freshly poured concrete and my son is teething so needless to say Im EXTRA bitter today 😂

Omg yes I really do want the update too 😂😂 I have no idea what ur in laws are like but just want to see someone put their foot down and succeed 😅🙏🏽

Oohh Incognito, bless you, what a day! 🫣 Hope you're not in too much pain and you're not too exhausted! You got this though! 💪🏼 Hope your partner is on board too! Sending you big love! 🫶🏼

Sorry about no updates last night girls, as I expected it was a shit show. It’s going to be long! My MIL decided to bring her dog without asking me and my husband beforehand. I have 3 dogs myself so the problem is not dog hair/mud but how a dog will behave towards my toddler. Her dog isn’t used to a toddler like mine are and my son is only 15 months so is kind of hard to prevent him from trying to be chasing the dog. My husband got upset about that as soon as they arrived because we are having our backyard done so it’s not like we can put the dog outside. My dogs were also inside the house and my male dog was very disturbed. My MIL told us that she needed to bring him because her landlord is doing a check in her house and he doesn’t know that she has a dog. Its a German Shepherd so its not allowed. I told her that she should DEFINITELY told us before so we could make arrangements and borrow a cage from a neighbor or something. I put MY dogs in the bathroom so the barking could stop

And I told her to watch her dog because my son is all over the place and extremely curious about the new dog. Until her dog growled at my son 🤷🏻‍♀️ she then tried to tell me that it was because my son tried to get his ball and yeah, my son is 15 months old thats why we need an adult CONSTANTLY watching him if we have a dog around. I was facing backwards whenever I heard the growling so I didn’t see what happened. My husband told her that she would need to put him in the garage and she started getting all bitchy saying that we should correct our son and not let him “do whatever he wants” while I truly understand but yall my son doesn’t have any common sense yet and I wasn’t trying to spend my night on edge because of chances of this dog biting my son. I told her that he can either go to the garage or she can leave and she FLIPPED telling my husband that “your wife is kicking your mother out” 🙆🏽‍♀️ at this point my husband was already trying to calm the situation but I was not having it

I got my tone down and I told her “I was giving you two options but NOW Im actually telling you to leave. Anything after this point means that you are trespassing and I will call the cops if I need to get you out of my house”. She started crying, her brother started getting to leave because he understood that shit was going down and my husband started with his “its okay baby, calm down”. Amazing words to tell someone that is mad but I think he was afraid of my actions since we are an armed house. I wouldn’t do anything crazy of course but this is a rule that we have in our house. My husband made her leave and said we would reschedule dinner at some point 🤷🏻‍♀️

We went to sleep without talking much last night but this morning he asked me if I was okay and that he would talk to his mom about what happened. I told him that this was the last time that she will treat our house like a venue and the next time I will not even open the door. My house is not an environment that has fights and my son was so scared with all the yelling and a side of me that he never saw and I will not allow anybody to bring that to my home. No pizza party 😂

Oh my goodness, I'm sorry that was a shit show! Your MIL sounds so incredibly entitled but also sooooooo rude. What the f with the dog! That's so our of order and also the way she spoke to your son. She would not be invited again anytime soon until she apologised for her absolutely vile behaviour and show changed behaviour 😱😱😱 I'm glad your husband is on your side though. Well done OP! Hope she'll leave you alone for a while now and won't do that again! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

Girl good for you! I just want to say that anyone reading this who hasn’t had to deal with psycho family dynamics/ crazy IL’s would hear this and call you crazy. BUT they don’t understand the lead up. Showing up to someone’s house with a pet is crazy- then add in the fact that it isn’t good around children, that you’re in the middle of a remodel, and you have pets of your own makes her actions so so far out of bounds. I’m glad your husband stood up for you and I’m hoping moving forward you can limit contact.

Wow not the update I was expecting honestly 😭 I am so sorry that happened and you had every right to kick her out after that! You should always ask before bringing your pet to someone’s house. Idk why she was trying to blame your 15 month old!!! A literal baby! That German shepherd could have hurt him so bad. Call her landlord and tell them about the dog 😂😂 jkjk (maybe 👀)

@Aurélie thank you so much 💓 Im proud of myself for actually telling her to fuck off for the first time in 5 years. I was never able to stand up for myself but Im going to stand up for my son even more in his own house. She never saw that side of me so Im sure she is going to think twice before treating me like I have no voice. I know that my husband is going to try to get us together again because he is veeeeery pro peace in the family but I will make sure to remind her that she doesn’t have my respect.

@Ali I couldn’t believe whenever I saw the dog with her but I thought that maybe she brought a cage or something to accommodate him. I love dogs and I have a Pitbull myself so I know how landlords can be hard on people like us. I would have helped her to “hide” him. She just doesn’t think I have any authority thats why she never consults me for anything. She was even letting the dog on my couch after I told her that I just had it deep cleaned and my own dogs have their own “bean bag”.

I don't even know you and I'm super proud of you for standing up for yourself and your son! 🫶🏼💪🏼 Hope the calm conversation will help bring peace but I'm so glad you put her back in her place. That was so so out of order to out her dog first over your son. She is insane 😳

@Cynthia He definitely could girl!! The growling was not a low warning, it was loud and his back hair was all up. We all jumped whenever we heard it. If that dog had hurt my son it would be a night in the ER and the end of that dog because of a stupid owner. I debated contacting her landlord already lol unfortunately that would mean that the dog would go to a shelter so that’s why I never did.