How do you make friends?

I hear you! I feel like I literally have nothing interesting to share about myself and tend to talk about my boys or my husband - to be honest I’ve always felt awkward talking about myself anyway even when I had an interesting job! I’ve built up a good network of local friends but to be honest nearly everything we talk about is related to the kids and I don’t think that’s necessarily all that bad because it’s what we think about the most! ❤️ it’s just the difficult job of finding your tribe - the ones you feel comfortable with and don’t leave feeling like you have to psycho analyse everything you said or did! It can take a while! With this third child I was feeling a bit down that I hadn’t met any new friends with children the same age but more recently I’ve stumbled across a couple of mums at groups who I can chat with without worrying too much! Try a few different groups / clubs and you will find them!

Every struggle is different. I struggle with career, making my own money. I don't have a husband who provides. I do like to talk about business, career paths, etc. My struggle is to keep afloat financially and providing for my kids what I didn't have

I feel like if you walk in your own neighborhood, you will find women like yourself, in the mall, etc. I try to pick up a conversation with anyone that could seem relatable

Same🩷 I’m 31. I also have had 3 children, but lost one. So that makes me think people are uncomfortable when I talk about him, but I want to talk about all of my children.. so I don’t think it’s boring!! And that’s how you learn about each other to become friends, the usual daily life. It’s not all magic lol. Then you find commonalities and inside jokes. Send me a message 🙂

same girl. I wish I had advice for you. but know your not alone in this. I try so hard to.make new friends and I always feel that no one likes me anymore but in reality I'm very awkward and it's hard to start a conversation or talk about myself

This is a pretty universal thing. Making friends as an adult is hard! I find one thing that helps is managing your expectations. You might have some friends where you all have teeny babies the same age and you bond over that. Embrace that and enjoy those folks. But as the kids get older, go to different schools, people move away, etc then those connections might stop and you'll find a different group you have your new priorities in common with. Maybe through a kids hobby or your own. Along the way you'll make a couple of proper besties, but don't expect everyone you hang out with to get to that level as it's unrealistic.

Honestly I don't even go to parties anymore. The friends I've been making I've met them at work. And only one of them has a child close to my sons age 🤷‍♀️

It's hard if you believe it to be hard. I personally have no problem making friends. If I'm at a party or a mom group hang out where I don't know anyone I just make myself approachable by paying attention to my surroundings not on my phone or I make a small talk about the food, drinks, their kids or anything. People love to talk about themselves. Or if I have a question i ask it. I always go positive with my question like praising the mom or speaking kindly about the kid I mostly listen to the other conversations happening around me and pipe up if I have something to say and mindful not to look bitchy. Keep a slight smile on your face and appreciate others opinions or point of views and comment on it if the opportunity comes up.

Your post has hit me in the core cause it’s how I feel the last few months. I have a handful of friends here but mainly overseas and find I am struggling to break the ice after becoming a mom.