MIL drama

So when I first got with my partner 4 years ago my MIL and I were very close and there didn’t seem to be any problems… however somewhere around 2 years of my partner and I being together she completely changed and started being very rude to me. This all started when my partner was over at her house and had texted me asking me to come and pick him up so I did and after that she messaged him saying that I was too clingy he couldn’t get five minutes alone without me being there and she started calling me rude things insinuating I was sleeping around and calling me a bitch and everything else along these lines. She continued treating me this way and even went as far as telling me I didn’t have a right to cry when I found out my partner had to have heart surgery while also finding out my step mother had to get a blood transfusion to save her life when she goes to have my brother. She kept up with treating me this way even after finding out I was pregnant telling my partner the baby probably wasn’t his and saying that I was dramatic when it came to my pregnancy and she tried telling me what my baby was going to eat what diapers I was to use where he was going to school and even went as far as trying to tell me what to name my baby. Of course I didn’t listen to her but it was the fact that she did it in the first place… anyhow when it got closer to my birth I had posted something on Facebook telling people that I was going to decide who could and couldn’t come to the hospital and that if they did come there would be rules for whoever wanted to touch my child. Immediately after having him my MIL called my partner asking when she could come to see baby boy and saying that she thinks I did so good and immediately changed the entire way she treats me. I would never withhold a grandparent from my son just because the grandparent and I didn’t get along but am I wrong to be upset about this? And should I bring it up to her? I just don’t know why or how her opinion could change about me because I had my son?

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I don’t think you’re wrong. It’s absolutely disgusting behavior on her part. And if a person no matter who it is, disrespects you and calls you names you absolutely have the right to keep your child from them. It’s about protecting your mental health and keeping your child’s mental health intact because eventually it will affect them because they are constantly hearing someone say negative to wings about you. They hear it so much it’ll affect your relationship with them. The only reason she’s being nice now is so she can act like grandmother of the year. She can’t say it wasn’t her sons baby and then go to praising you after basically calling you a whore

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@Kenzie okay that is exact how I was feeling about the situation as well

Just because someone has a title to your child doesn’t mean they are entitled to them. You and your husband are the only two people who are. I understand your feeling and the position it puts you in. But you just have to remember it’s only about you three nobody else. My husband and I are going through distancing from people right now and it’s a lot trust me. Especially for a freshly postpartum mom. But if this continues on it’s for the best.

@Kenzie the sad thing is my partner almost encourages his mother and doesn’t stick up for me then says “well she’s my mom I don’t want to hurt her feelings” this is a difficult situation

Mine used to say “ well she’s my mom and she’s older and doesn’t have much time left and it’s easier to just agree” it has taken a lot of work on both our parts and we’re still working through it rn. I completely understand you and your feelings are valid. Do what’s best for you and your child

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