How do you cope?

I got a bedside bassinet so that my toddler doesn’t end on the baby. It also ensures that I can get better sleep. With both kids in bed I was always half awake To prevent hurting can be tough, especially since they don’t really understand it yet. I just keep telling what she can do and what she can’t. And don’t leave her alone with the baby For jealousy I try to give her as much one on one time as possible and try to include her in most things

I’m still adjusting as well 😩 the struggle is real!!! In the beginning I had them in totally separate rooms for bed, now we all sleep in the same bed dad holds my 16month old and I hold the 1 month old. Currently 1month old is trying to sleep and 16 month old is wide awake coo cooing and playing around.. lol I have given him a warm bath, some breast milk with cereal and a baby food. 🤦🏾‍♀️😩 Now I’m going to cut the lights off so he’s in complete dark he should go to sleep within 30 mins 🤞🏾

My husband does our Toddler's bedtime who sleeps in his own room and our baby sleeps in our bedroom so they don't wake each other up at night. Concerning jealousy and hurting the baby I have learned very quickly that if you act really protective over the baby and focus much more on the baby, the jealousy will be more and therefore also the hurting. So I always take our toddler and explain him everything about the baby, e.g when it wakes up while we are in the middle of playing I say in an excited voice: Oh my! Who is that? Is that baby? And then he grabs my hand and runs to her so I let him cuddle her first and only then pick her up (demonstrating that she is not MY BABY but that she is a family member and his sister first of all). Also I encourage him being around her even if he is a bit rough but I teach him where the line is. If I was stopping him all the time from trying to tap her head or dig his nose into her belly but he saw me cuddling her all day he would feel like he is not part of this.

And also, in the mornings our toddler is at daycare for 4 hours and I spend the time cuddling, and spending 1 on 1 time with baby so when the toddler comes home I can focus slightly more on him while the baby is in the babychair or playmat occupying itself mostly and I interact with the baby mostly by bringing the toddler along and acting as if the baby is something we both should care for so by now, after 3 months he never hurts her anymore but is really happy to see and cuddle her and even offers her always his toys, his dummy and his milk bottle and tries to get her dressed sometimes. A highlight this week was that I was changing her nappy and our toddler ran to a different room and was searching for a nappy cream and then came, opened it and handed it to me smiling. It's amazing!