Hospital visitors

Are you planning to have visitors to you whilst you’re in hospital after giving birth/if your baby is already here did you have visitors? My mum is VERY upset that I’ve said I most likely won’t have visitors until we’re home. This is our rainbow baby and I very much just want my husband and I to spend time together with him at first. Its been such a journey to get here, last time I was in this hospital ward it was with a stillborn so I know it’s going to be really tough emotionally and had hoped she would respect our boundaries. Just curious as to what others had done and how their families reacted
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My hospital doesn't even allow visitors only birthing partner and siblings of baby are allowed.

No visitors at hospital. I had a c section and was there for only 24hr. It's even less if you have a natural birth. It's too stressful with all he checks and everything.

Nope. Just my husband, me, and baby. I have an overbearing mil and it was a difficult conversation, as we also said we wouldn't welcome any visitors for the first 4-5 days. It's our first baby, but I just want to get to know baby and form our family. My own parents live abroad, so they've already booked for in a couple of weeks. This is you and your partner's decision. With a rainbow baby I can understand even more. Don't let anyone else try to force you to change your mind on this.

I totally get this. We delivered our daughter sleeping last October and 40+1 with our rainbow today. Our plan is to deliver in the birth centre next door to labour ward where we were last year. I have no intention of family visiting in hospital unless there's a complication and we will be there for a few days. I feel it's so important, and even more so than a normal healthy first time delivery, to have that time just you, your partner and your baby. Your family need to respect that. They don't come first in this situation

Nope it’ll be just my partner and me. Once we’re all home and settled I’ll have my mum and friends over :)

I was only in 24hrs after mine as baby needed 24hr OBS. Tbh. No visitors. Christ, I didn't even want to be awake nevermind talking to people. I had a 36hr Labour and tore. Then every 2hrs midwives were in doing OBS on me and baby. I considered hospital visits. In the end I'm beyond glad I said no. My friend was in 8 days due to complications. If I'd been in longer then I may have considered it but not within the first 24hrs after birth.

We had to be in a couple of nights, so having my parents visit helped, one dropped and picked by partner up so he could pop home for a shower and nap, and then they stayed with me so I wasn't alone, which was really nice. However, if we hadn't been there as long, don't think it would have been needed. Its hard to know what you want until you know what the post birth situation will be like. We told my parents that we would let them know what we wanted and needed post the birth, and asked them to be flexible.

When I had my first two my (ex)partner's parents came without anyone even asking what I wanted. I didn't mind so much as we were very close but I would never allow it now. Fortunately there's no-one except my mum to keep away with my third baby and I've already decided not to tell her anything until he's born and we're both settled. People are so overbearing when it comes to babies 🫠

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