I need advice

I'd read literature on the topic and make sure it's something you both are up for. * the ethical slut* would a good place to start. You can join groups on Twitter , chat up a few, and see where things go. If you want just sex with the 3rd or relationship, it is something worth discussing, too. What do you do with loneliness, jealousy, and him wanting options, too is worth discussing as well. Long-term or short-term . Feel free to message me if you want more info or advice.

Don't do it with friends, try and get out to a bar and find someone who's willing to participate. It becomes to awkward and messy with friends

@Elizabeth this !!! Yes, no friends. They tend to fall in love with your partner or you.

@Mutago 🤭 It's crazy how entitled they think they can be after having fun 🤣

Start doing the work to unlearn the toxic monogamy mindsets that you may have before looking for a 3rd and have the hard discussions. Start outlining what rules/boundaries you would like. Discuss what will happen if/when feelings do happen if you have a 3rd that you play with more than once. Make sure your relationship with your partner is already at 100% or get into couples counselling with an enm informed counselor to start working towards a space you won't harm/hurt others.

I'd honestly advise for your first time, hiring a sex worker. It's their job so they're used to it and that way you won't be involving someone who is possibly also inexperienced.