No friends

So I know lots of people who have children a similar age to my LO and they say their friends of mine and they do the whole ‘we must get together soon’ but then never follow it up, don’t reply when I suggest something, or arrange big get together and don’t invite us. I’m finding it incredibly hard to watch my LO 2 grow up sort of lonely, and struggle with social skills, I do have a couple of friends but it’s hard finding time to get together, but these ‘old friends’ are forever getting together and we’re never invited. I don’t think I’ve done anything to offend them, i do struggle with anxiety and some social situations like big parties but I try really hard to push through for the sake of my LO. my family made it very clear they weren’t actually interested in my LO and haven’t seen them for over a year. Does anyone else find this? I just feel so incredibly lonely and can see it affecting my LO, as they’ve developed an ‘anger issue’ I don’t know what to call it, but gets very gross when people try to interact. As it’s basically just us, my partner is very distant lately from us both so that doesn’t help the situation.

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The we must get together thing is so annoying. It's a cultural thing but it needs to get in the bin. I mean it's possible to be polite and not get someone's hopes up if they actually had no intention of meeting you. I find it really hard to tell when it's genuine or not as some of my old friends are genuinely just crazy busy and overwhelmed and that's OK. If they are arranging things and not inviting you that's a sign to just forget them and make new friends though! Any playgroups you can join or meet anyone local here ? Or through hobby groups? Hope your partner ends his distance soon and hopefully your LO anger is just developmental and nothing to do with what you're going through ♥️🙏try not to feel guilty it's not your fault if you're lonely and you're not alone!

If they’re making plans but not inviting you and I’m guessing you can see on their socials they don’t sound like true friends! Everyone gets busy from time to time but we’re all adults it would take them a minute to invite you to a group plan! If you’re local to the Wirral/chester I have a 2year old I’d happily meet up with you both for a cuppa or go to a soft play! It is daunting but I’d definitely look into play groups in churches/centres or kids classes that are usually an hour or two once a week it will do you and your little one the world of good! I hope your partner improves too! Take care x

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