in Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Ugh relationships

So I’m dating this guy in January for 2 years. I thought I was set on this being the one. I’m now unsure. My mother is a complete mess in her life and it’s getting in the way of mine and my bfs. My grandma died and we have to all stay together because he makes most of the money. If he’s the future and forever he is refusing to help me clean up after another full grown adult aka my mom. Which let me tell you I’m tired of it too. It’s not like I haven’t discussed this with her I’m very aware. She is getting defensive and demanding and always has been that way to me. I’m expecting a baby in February. Aside from her, I had my bf live with us. He goes and makes the money and stuff does he buy all the groceries no? He help yeah. But I have mental health problems and I need him to see it’s easier if he helps me around here.

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I always most of the time have to ask him to take out the garbage. Which I usually just did all the cleaning when my grandparents lived here. My moms needs help: and he probably does to. His ego is too big to see I need help. And thinks it’s ok to talk shit about her and then some.

I don’t know the full story but from what you said he’s refusing to clean up after an adult, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Yes, it puts more stress on you but your mom should be cleaning up after herself. Maybe try seeing if he’s willing to help outside of your mom?

Well… Is your mom handy cap? Because me personally? I don’t think he has to help. It’ll be nice because you’re pregnant but that’s your mom… she needs to clean behind herself ( if she’s capable) orrrr I would suggest finding a small place she can stay alone.

I don’t disagree about him not wanting to clean up after her, but he acts like an angel and if he never makes messes. What could he help with outside of my mom? She has this house cluttered

I’m sorry but it sounds like an issue you need to take up with your mom first. If you can come to an agreement with her, then maybe you and your husband can work out something. However, it seems the biggest issue is your mom.

@courtney yes and just because your mom is defensive and demanding to you does not mean that your husband has to tolerate it !

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